The Narrator went to his usual testicular cancer support group and found that Marla was still there. The Narrator found that he still couldn’t relax and cry, as usual. He kept thinking about Marla, watching him and judging him for being a faker, just like her. Later at the support group, Marla and the Narrator hug, and Marla whispers, “You’re not dying either.” The Narrator and Marla, still locked in a hug, surrounded by crying people, argue over which support groups to attend. They agree that the Narrator will attend some of the cancer support groups, including testicular cancer, and Marla will attend the other half.
In this scene, the Narrator and Marla strike up an unorthodox friendship based in their common sense of feeling out of place. From the perspective of rest of the group, Marla and the Narrator appear to be crying and expressing emotion, but they’re really “carving up” their shares of support groups (so that The Narrator can get back to crying and feeling a cathartic release).
The Narrator asks Marla why she comes to support groups, and she explains that she loves “the real experience of death.”
Marla’s statement here could be a kind of thesis statement for the novel—in a world of dullness and apathy, the characters seek something “real,” and seem to find it in pain and the experience of being close to death.