A Complicated Kindness

by

Miriam Toews

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A Complicated Kindness: Chapter Nineteen Summary & Analysis

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Nomi doesn’t want to go to bed when she gets home, so she walks downtown to the Trampoline House. While the family who owns it is away or asleep, people can drop a dime in the can and jump on the trampoline as long as they like. Nomi tries to think about her problems by putting them in categories like “Travis,” “school,” and “environment.” She remembers jumping on the trampoline with Tash years ago. Tash instructed Nomi authoritatively that if she liked a boy at school, she should ignore him.
By visiting the Trampoline House, Nomi is trying recapture a more tranquil time in her life, when she could rely upon Tash’s advice. Yet that advice—that Nomi should always be guarded around people she likes—isn’t serving her well in her relationship with Travis. As Nomi’s relationship derails, so does her faith in her sister’s concept of romance.
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Nomi leaves the Trampoline House and goes to school, where she is supposed to write a “fifteen-hundred-word story that included a triggering point, a climax, and a resolution.” She wants to write about Turkish weddings, but Mr. Quiring rejects the topic immediately. Frustrated, he asks why she isn’t more bothered when she receives her graded essays covered in red underlines. Nomi responds that she doesn’t mind because, in the Bible, the words of Jesus always appear in red. Mr. Quiring hits her with a pencil case and Nomi walks out of the school.
Here, Mr. Quiring’s rigid conception of a “correct” story contrasts with Nomi’s nonlinear method of portraying her life. Her narrative style is more revealing, candid, and subversive than his. It’s worth noting her funny quip about Jesus’s words—like storytelling, humor allows her to question dogmatic adults. As in other traumatic moments, Nomi downplays Mr. Quiring’s aggression here, but the fact that she’s actually facing violence raises the stakes of her storytelling even further.
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Nomi walks down Main Street. She waves to one of her mentally-handicapped cousins, who is sitting outside the supermarket, and sits at the post office with another mentally-handicapped cousin, Jakie, to watch a group of Hutterites emerging from a Land Rover. Nomi encourages Jakie to tell her the birthdays of everyone he knows. Then she walks by the church, where The Mouth has posted a fearsome Bible quote saying that God’s true followers “shall go forth, and look upon the carcasses of the men that have transgressed.”
The idle presence of so many of Nomi’s relatives gives a sense of stasis to the community, which she desperately wants to escape. It’s important that The Mouth chooses the harshest, most threatening biblical passages to represent the church. This shows the extent to which he considers religion a means of power and control. Later, both Ray and Trudie will reference lyrical, loving biblical passages to represent their own faith.
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In the supermarket window, Nomi sees a sign advertising a new meat department, so she goes inside to check it out. The butcher looks at her hopefully, but she doesn’t know anything about cooking cuts of meat. To avoid disappointing him, she asks for a pound of any kind of meat, and he gives her a roast to cook for her dad. Outside, some boys from school drive by and call her a “doob,” a local slang term for a condom. Nomi refrains from throwing the roast.
By buying a roast, Nomi is implicitly trying to fill her mother’s housekeeping role and pretend that nothing is wrong with her family. But her total lack of cooking skills is a reminder that she can’t—and shouldn’t have to—take on these responsibilities, and the taunts she faces remind her that most people see her family as broken and set apart from the community.
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Nomi runs into two classmates, Marina and Patty, who are babysitting some young kids. They invite her back to the house for cake and vodka, but before the vodka appears Marina says that the parents are coming home soon and they should leave. A few minutes later, Nomi is standing at her kitchen window and sees Patty walking back towards the house. Nomi thinks that she really is a “doob.”
Nomi never explicitly says that she’s lonely, but her lack of friends besides Lids and her growing dependence on Travis suggest that she is. While Nomi’s relationships with marginalized people like Mrs. Peters are commendable, they also implicitly point out how alienated she is from typical teenage experiences.
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Ray comes in from watering the flowers and sees that Nomi has been crying. He asks her to accompany him to the town dump, which he visits often. He tells her to load the wood from her playhouse, which he’s recently dismantled, and an old bed frame into the car. Nomi reflects that Ray always comforts people in ridiculous ways. She remembers the time when Trudie had to identify her sister’s body after she was killed in a horse-and-buggy accident, and Ray told her not to “let it be an entirely negative experience.”
By referencing Ray’s darkly funny comment about the morgue, Nomi presents her father as earnest and well-intentioned, yet emotionally obtuse. But at the novel’s end, it’s he who gives Nomi the help and guidance she needs to leave home. It’s possible that Nomi is underestimating her father’s emotional strength as an excuse to stay in East Village and care for him.
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Nomi likes to see Ray driving because he looks in control of his life. She admits that she bought a roast and lost it on the way home, and Ray tells her not to worry about it. Even though people are supposed to pay to enter the dump, the owner lets Ray in for free; Ray confesses that this is because sometimes he visits the dump at night and organizes the garbage. They pile their trash in the dump and look around for interesting objects. Nomi sees a small cowboy boot that reminds her of her own days of riding horses. Ray used to take her to compete at rodeos, where he would be the only person dressed in a suit and tie.
Both Nomi and Ray derive a sense of control and freedom from driving around at night, but they rarely share this experience—instead, Nomi drives around with Travis and sometimes hears Ray return from late-night expeditions. This is a moment of new understanding as Ray and Nomi try to reimagine their relationship in the absence of Trudie and Tash.
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Nomi knows that Ray wants to move the boot to a better place, so she teases him about organizing it until he picks it up and places it in a different pile for broken toys. Nomi reflects that for Ray, the dump is like a “cemetery where he could organize abandoned dreams and wrecked things into families, in a way, that stayed together.”
Even as his own house becomes more chaotic, Ray enjoys organizing things in the dump. Imposing order in a typically disordered place likely helps him compensate for his family life, which would ideally be tranquil but is actually messy and tragic.
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