A Thousand Years of Good Prayers

by

Yiyun Li

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Mr. Shi’s Daughter Character Analysis

Mr. Shi’s daughter moved from China to the United States, where she works as a librarian in the East Asian department of a college. After seven years of marriage to a Chinese man, she is newly divorced. She reveals to her father that she was divorced because of an affair with a Romanian-American man with whom she feels she can communicate better than with her husband, because she was not raised to express her feelings comfortably in Chinese. Mr. Shi’s daughter is reluctant to talk to her father both because of her discomfort speaking in Chinese and her knowledge of the lie he had told her and her mother for many years about his work. She does not like answering his questions about her work, her friends, and her life, and often refuses his company when she leaves the house. She feels there is a chasm of miscommunication between them and that they do not know how to speak to each other. At the end of the story, it does not seem that her relationship with her father has been repaired, because she sends him away to do a tour of the United States instead of letting him stay with her.

Mr. Shi’s Daughter Quotes in A Thousand Years of Good Prayers

The A Thousand Years of Good Prayers quotes below are all either spoken by Mr. Shi’s Daughter or refer to Mr. Shi’s Daughter. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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A Thousand Years of Good Prayers Quotes

America is worth taking a look at; more than that, America makes him a new person, a rocket scientist, a good conversationalist, a loving father, a happy man.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 189
Explanation and Analysis:

Women in their marriageable twenties and early thirties are like lychees that have been picked from the tree; each passing day makes them less fresh and less desirable, and only too soon will they lose their value, and have to be gotten rid of at a sale price. Mr. Shi knows enough not to mention the sale price. Still, he cannot help but lecture on the fruitfulness of life. The more he talks, the more he is moved by his own patience.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Related Symbols: Food and Cooking
Page Number: 189-190
Explanation and Analysis:

Her eyes behind her glasses, wide open and unrelenting, remind him of her in her younger years. When she was four or five, she went after him every possible moment, asking questions and demanding answers. The eyes remind him of her mother too; at one time in their marriage, she gazed at him with this questioning look, waiting for an answer he did not have for her.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter, Mr. Shi’s Wife
Page Number: 190
Explanation and Analysis:

He feels disappointed in his daughter, someone he shares a language with but with whom he can no longer share a dear moment. After a long pause, he says, “You know, a woman shouldn’t ask such direct questions. A good woman is deferential and knows how to make people talk.”

Related Characters: Mr. Shi (speaker), Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 194
Explanation and Analysis:

Truly it was his mistake, never establishing a habit of talking to his daughter. But then, he argues for himself—in his time, a man like him, among the few chosen to work for a grand cause, he had to bear more duties toward his work than his family. Honorable and sad, but honorable more than sad.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 195-196
Explanation and Analysis:

He listens to her speak English on the phone, her voice shriller than he has ever known it to be. She speaks fast and laughs often. He does not understand her words, but even more, he does not understand her manner. Her voice, too sharp, too loud, too immodest, is so unpleasant to his ears that for a moment he feels as if he had accidentally caught a glimpse of her naked body, a total stranger, not the daughter he knows.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 197
Explanation and Analysis:

“Baba, if you grew up in a language that you never used to express your feelings, it would be easier to take up another language and talk more in the new language. It makes you a new person.”

Related Characters: Mr. Shi’s Daughter (speaker), Mr. Shi
Page Number: 199
Explanation and Analysis:

Talking is like riding with an unreined horse, you don’t know where you end up and you don’t have to think about it. That’s what our talking was like, but we weren’t having an affair as they said. We were never in love,” Mr. Shi says, and then, for a short moment, is confused by his own words. What kind of love is he talking about? Surely they were in love, not the love they were suspected of having—he always kept a respectful distance, their hands never touched. But a love in which they talked freely, a love in which their minds touched—wasn’t it love, too?

Related Characters: Mr. Shi (speaker), Mr. Shi’s Daughter, Madam, Yilan
Page Number: 202
Explanation and Analysis:
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Mr. Shi’s Daughter Quotes in A Thousand Years of Good Prayers

The A Thousand Years of Good Prayers quotes below are all either spoken by Mr. Shi’s Daughter or refer to Mr. Shi’s Daughter. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Language, Communication, and Understanding Theme Icon
).
A Thousand Years of Good Prayers Quotes

America is worth taking a look at; more than that, America makes him a new person, a rocket scientist, a good conversationalist, a loving father, a happy man.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 189
Explanation and Analysis:

Women in their marriageable twenties and early thirties are like lychees that have been picked from the tree; each passing day makes them less fresh and less desirable, and only too soon will they lose their value, and have to be gotten rid of at a sale price. Mr. Shi knows enough not to mention the sale price. Still, he cannot help but lecture on the fruitfulness of life. The more he talks, the more he is moved by his own patience.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Related Symbols: Food and Cooking
Page Number: 189-190
Explanation and Analysis:

Her eyes behind her glasses, wide open and unrelenting, remind him of her in her younger years. When she was four or five, she went after him every possible moment, asking questions and demanding answers. The eyes remind him of her mother too; at one time in their marriage, she gazed at him with this questioning look, waiting for an answer he did not have for her.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter, Mr. Shi’s Wife
Page Number: 190
Explanation and Analysis:

He feels disappointed in his daughter, someone he shares a language with but with whom he can no longer share a dear moment. After a long pause, he says, “You know, a woman shouldn’t ask such direct questions. A good woman is deferential and knows how to make people talk.”

Related Characters: Mr. Shi (speaker), Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 194
Explanation and Analysis:

Truly it was his mistake, never establishing a habit of talking to his daughter. But then, he argues for himself—in his time, a man like him, among the few chosen to work for a grand cause, he had to bear more duties toward his work than his family. Honorable and sad, but honorable more than sad.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 195-196
Explanation and Analysis:

He listens to her speak English on the phone, her voice shriller than he has ever known it to be. She speaks fast and laughs often. He does not understand her words, but even more, he does not understand her manner. Her voice, too sharp, too loud, too immodest, is so unpleasant to his ears that for a moment he feels as if he had accidentally caught a glimpse of her naked body, a total stranger, not the daughter he knows.

Related Characters: Mr. Shi, Mr. Shi’s Daughter
Page Number: 197
Explanation and Analysis:

“Baba, if you grew up in a language that you never used to express your feelings, it would be easier to take up another language and talk more in the new language. It makes you a new person.”

Related Characters: Mr. Shi’s Daughter (speaker), Mr. Shi
Page Number: 199
Explanation and Analysis:

Talking is like riding with an unreined horse, you don’t know where you end up and you don’t have to think about it. That’s what our talking was like, but we weren’t having an affair as they said. We were never in love,” Mr. Shi says, and then, for a short moment, is confused by his own words. What kind of love is he talking about? Surely they were in love, not the love they were suspected of having—he always kept a respectful distance, their hands never touched. But a love in which they talked freely, a love in which their minds touched—wasn’t it love, too?

Related Characters: Mr. Shi (speaker), Mr. Shi’s Daughter, Madam, Yilan
Page Number: 202
Explanation and Analysis: