Summary
Analysis
Dante writes Ari a short letter asking if Ari masturbates. He admits that he’s obsessed and thinks it’s a phase, but doesn’t want to ask Mr. Quintana about it. He asks how often it’s normal to masturbate. Ari is mad about the letter because he thinks it’s embarrassing. He doesn’t want to talk about masturbation at all, and definitely not with Dante.
While kissing may be just fine for Ari, masturbation represents a different kind of sexual maturity that’s less comfortable for him. Their differences of opinion here show that Dante is still a little ahead of Ari as they mature, and that there is a gap in communication between him and Ari as a result.