Becoming Nicole

by

Amy Ellis Nutt

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Wayne Maines Character Analysis

Nicole and Jonas’s father, and Kelly’s husband. Unlike Kelly, Wayne has a very traditional upbringing in upstate New York. This is why, when Nicole (then Wyatt) starts to show a more feminine gender identity, Wayne is much more taken aback than Kelly is. Wayne’s childhood centered around basketball, baseball, hunting, and a strong male bond with his own father and brother. When Wyatt rejects these activities, it feels to Wayne like a rejection of his own childhood, or as though he is being mocked. Thus, Wayne frequently gets angry at Wyatt or ignores his behavior. However, when Wayne’s support as a father is tested, he shows his true priorities. Before the twins turn three, Wyatt confesses tearfully that he hates his penis. Wayne stifles his own emotional reaction in order to comfort his son. When a judge questions the Maineses’ decision to change Wyatt’s name to Nicole, Wayne stands up to make a statement in support of Wyatt’s transition, even though he had been hesitant about it up to that point. Gradually, Wayne becomes a big advocate for transgender rights alongside Nicole and writes articles to help other fathers of transgender children understand what it means to be trans. Like Kelly, he discovers that the most important quality in a family is the support and love that they have for each other, not their conformity to a social norm.

Wayne Maines Quotes in Becoming Nicole

The Becoming Nicole quotes below are all either spoken by Wayne Maines or refer to Wayne Maines. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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). Note: all page numbers and citation info for the quotes below refer to the Random House edition of Becoming Nicole published in 2015.
Chapter 1 Quotes

By the time Wayne reached home and embraced Kelly, he was smiling, thinking not about the added expenses but about the double joy: two baseball gloves, two basketballs, two rifles for his two baby boys!

Page Number: 13
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Chapter 3 Quotes

“Daddy, I hate my penis.”

Jolted out of his reverie, Wayne tried to take in the words his precious son had just uttered. Then he reached down, scooped up the young boy, and hugged him fiercely. He kissed away the tears in Wyatt’s eyes. He kissed the tip of his nose, his cheeks, his lips, all the while fighting back his own tears.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines (speaker), Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 23-24
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Chapter 4 Quotes

Kelly was learning to do things pretty much on her own for both boys, but especially Wyatt. He clamored to wear the same colorful clothes as Leah, and rather than wear the flannel shirt his mother bought him to match Jonas’s, he would go bare chested. Kelly felt it was cruel to keep dressing Wyatt in clothes he hated, so she made the decision, without Wayne’s input, to shop every now and then for something less masculine for Wyatt to wear.

Page Number: 25
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Chapter 5 Quotes

“Are you going to let him wear that?” Wayne asked.

Kelly didn’t answer. Instead, she raced up to Wyatt, hot tears now streaking his face, took him by the hand, and led him back into his bedroom. It was, she knew right then and there, the worst moment of her life. It wasn’t so much the reaction of the people at the party, who were mostly stunned into silence—that was Wayne’s issue—but rather the hurt her son was experiencing, and for no good reason other than that he wanted to wear his princess dress to the family’s party.

Related Characters: Wayne Maines (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 37
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Wayne was also trying to make sense of Wyatt, in his own way, but mostly he was hoping these were all things his son would simply outgrow. He didn’t want to think about his son being gay. It was fine if the sons of other fathers were gay, because he had no problem working with gay people or his children having gay friends. He just didn’t want that for his son. It would be too hard his whole life, and Wayne was afraid he wouldn’t know how to be the kind of father Wyatt would want—or need.

Page Number: 40
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Chapter 13 Quotes

Wyatt was flooded with relief, knowing there was someone out there just like him. Wayne couldn’t believe it. Wyatt, he realized, had all the same anger issues, and he and Kelly all the same anxieties, but Jazz’s parents were openly discussing them on national TV. Wayne fought back tears for the rest of the hour.

Page Number: 81
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Chapter 18 Quotes

For Wayne, this was the first time he’d shown any kind of public support for Wyatt being transgender. His instincts as a father had been tested without his even realizing it, and he’d responded to the challenge. The petition was granted, and in a matter of days Wyatt Benjamin Maines would officially and legally become Nicole Amber Maines.

Page Number: 118
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Chapter 26 Quotes

Researchers in epigenetics seek to explain the no-man’s-land between nature and nurture where environment influences a person’s genetic makeup. This happens when changes in the environment trigger some genes to activate and others to deactivate. Identical twins may have the exact same DNA, but not the exact same molecular switches. Those switches often depend not only on environmental influences outside the womb—what the mother does, how she feels, what she eats, drinks, or smokes—but inside the womb as well.

Page Number: 161
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Chapter 28 Quotes

Kelly and the kids would move to Portland, and Wayne would commute on weekends and holidays to be with them. They’d always thought they were on an upward trajectory in their lives, with success and promotions at work fueling an increasingly better lifestyle, but Jacob and his grandfather Paul Melanson had bizarrely changed all that. Suddenly, Wayne and Kelly were downsizing and their lives were in reverse.

Page Number: 173
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Chapter 31 Quotes

It was impossible for the Maineses not to feel the importance of their case among these hardworking people, and they realized that their lawsuit wasn’t just about Nicole or their family. It wasn’t even just their story anymore. The lawsuit, even though it was just a state case, had meaning and significance for many others. And now Wayne, Kelly, Nicole, and Jonas would carry the hopes of those others with them as they sought affirmation from the courts.

Page Number: 195
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Chapter 37 Quotes

Jonas said, “Dad, should 1go get her?” It was always his instinct to shepherd his sister. Wayne and Kelly had asked a lot of their only son, and sometimes they forgot the sacrifices he’d had to make being Nicole’s brother. Wayne hugged him and told him how proud he was of him for looking out for Nicole all these years, for worrying about her, and for stepping up whenever and wherever he was needed.

Related Characters: Jonas Maines (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Wayne Maines
Page Number: 219
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Wayne Maines Character Timeline in Becoming Nicole

The timeline below shows where the character Wayne Maines appears in Becoming Nicole. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Prologue: Mirror Image
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...beads dangling from his neck and a sequined pink tutu around his waist. His father, Wayne, watches and films his son. He asks, “Show me your muscles, Wy. Can I see... (full context)
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...Wyatt and his identical twin brother, Jonas, who were adopted at birth by Kelly and Wayne Maines. Initially, they are nearly impossible to tell apart, but Kelly and Wayne quickly see... (full context)
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Wayne and Kelly had adopted the boys just after they were born, having been unable to... (full context)
Chapter 1: Identical Twins
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By the time that Wayne and Kelly adopt their newborn sons, the couple has been married five years. Kelly had... (full context)
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...five-day education enhancement course about underwater wells and waste management in Ohio. There, she met Wayne Maines, who was at the time the director of Safety and Health Training at West... (full context)
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Wayne, by contrast, was a “pure American boy.” He grew up in a rural area of... (full context)
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After getting out of the Air Force, Wayne first attended community college before applying and being accepted to Cornell University. Wayne earned a... (full context)
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Kelly hadn’t seen her cousin Sarah since she was a baby, but she and Wayne decided quickly that they wanted the child. Kelly knew the importance of a stable environment,... (full context)
Chapter 2: My Boys
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...a slightly difficult delivery and loses quite a bit of blood, but she, Kelly, and Wayne are able to take the babies home three days later. Wayne holds his sons, saying,... (full context)
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Wayne thinks about the fact that right now they are Kelly’s boys, but soon he will... (full context)
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...She takes Sarah out to dinner, thanking her for the gift she’s given Kelly and Wayne. On the drive home, Kelly thinks about contingency plans: though Sarah has never expressed a... (full context)
Chapter 3: Finally Ours
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Wayne and Kelly, Wyatt, and Jonas live in a farmhouse in Northville, New York, and Kelly... (full context)
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On May 17, 1998, Wayne and Kelly go to court to make the adoptions official. A judge verifies that Wyatt... (full context)
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One day, before the twins are three, Wayne is renovating one of their bathrooms using a hammer. Wyatt joins him with his own... (full context)
Chapter 4: Gender Dysphoria
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To Kelly, Wyatt isn’t strange or sick; he’s just different. Wayne starts to distance himself from the situation, purposefully ignoring Wyatt when he skips around the... (full context)
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Wayne doesn’t approve of Kelly’s actions, which he feels are indulgent, but doesn’t stop her. All... (full context)
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...“When will my penis fall off?” as if he expects to develop into a girl. Wayne, on the other hand, finds it difficult to accept Wyatt’s gender-bending behavior. He retreats to... (full context)
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In 2003, after Jonas and Wyatt complete kindergarten, Wayne and Kelly decide to move to Orono, Maine, after Wayne gets a job at the... (full context)
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Kelly lets Wyatt grow his hair out and wear feminine shirts. Wayne, meanwhile, feels uncomfortable whenever they are in public and awkward situations arise as a result. ... (full context)
Chapter 5: Down East
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...The Maineses’ new house is a four-bedroom with a barn and six acres of woodland. Wayne cuts down trees to build a log cabin for Jonas and Wyatt. The kids seem... (full context)
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...appears at the top of the stairs in a pink princess dress during the party, Wayne yells at him that he can’t wear that. Kelly hears this and immediately comforts her... (full context)
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Wayne, meanwhile, remains downstairs. He feels that his world has “just blown up,” worried that everyone... (full context)
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Kelly is frustrated by Wayne’s behavior and the fact that he refuses to talk about his feelings about their child.... (full context)
Chapter 6: Things to Be Careful Of
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...he starts school that Wyatt likes girls’ things, which the teacher fortunately understands. One of Wayne’s friends told him that her sons had corrected her when she said the “Maines boys.”... (full context)
Chapter 7: The Pink Aisle
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...she could be a role model for Wyatt and that her words might also help Wayne understand Wyatt’s identity better. (full context)
Chapter 8: A Boy-Girl
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Once, when the whole family makes a trip to Boston for Kelly’s treatments, she and Wayne notice a young boy with no hair and a very thin face who is also... (full context)
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Kelly and Wayne try to find a therapist for Wyatt, but it proves difficult to find someone who... (full context)
Chapter 9: Wild in the Dark
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...In his notebook, he frequently describes wanting to hit Jonas or throw things. Wyatt’s teacher, Wayne, and Kelly are concerned with this behavior. They also note Wyatt’s anger turning inward: he... (full context)
Chapter 10: Girls with Magical Powers
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...are confident and aggressive. Wyatt starts to emulate this behavior. He increasingly pushes limits, asking Wayne to have bold and glittery dresses while in a department store. Wayne tries not to... (full context)
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...two-piece bathing suit and sneaks him into the girls’ dressing room—something she has not told Wayne about. Dr. Holmes questions whether this is sensible, causing Kelly to be insecure about her... (full context)
Chapter 11: A Son and a Daughter
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...says something cruel to him in the shower. Wyatt tries to confront the boy, and Wayne has to pull the two kids away from each other. When Wyatt and Jonas join... (full context)
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Wayne is disappointed because he had loved the Scouts, and this serves as “one more reminder... (full context)
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Wayne takes far more pleasure in doing “boy” things with Jonas, like Little League, but the... (full context)
Chapter 12: Transitions
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Seeing Wyatt’s teachers and classmates accept his feminine identity is slowly changing Wayne’s perception of Wyatt. He starts to understand that Wyatt’s “transition” needs to be nurtured. This... (full context)
Chapter 13: Getting the Anger Out
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In April 2007, Wayne and Kelly sit down with Wyatt one night to watch a 20/20 special on transgender... (full context)
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...Wyatt is “flooded with relief,” knowing that there is someone else out there like him. Wayne is also shocked at the parents’ willingness to talk openly about their child and the... (full context)
Chapter 16: Nature’s Anomalies
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...like Jonas is beginning puberty. Jonas is happy to contribute somehow to Wyatt’s transition. For Wayne, he finally realizes that Wyatt’s transition is going to happen “with or without him.” For... (full context)
Chapter 17: Being Different
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...Section 504 form to the Special Services office of the board of education so that Wayne and Kelly can be involved in meetings with teachers and school staff to evaluate Wyatt’s... (full context)
Chapter 18: Becoming Nicole
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Kelly and Wayne gradually become more lenient with Wyatt’s gender expression, now allowing him wear all the feminine... (full context)
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Kelly and Wayne file a petition to have the name change kept from the newspaper. They appear in... (full context)
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At this statement, Wayne stands and speaks in front of the judge. He explains that Wyatt had been expressing... (full context)
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...deny your request […] You are obviously very concerned about your child’s safety.” Kelly and Wayne are relieved and realize that their own assumptions based on the judge’s appearance had been... (full context)
Chapter 19: A New Adversary
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Jonas adapts easily to Nicole’s new name, but Wayne is nervous about explaining the name change to his friends and family. But to Wayne’s... (full context)
Chapter 20: Freak
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...about the incident. She is furious, and calls the school administrator, Kelly Clenchy. She and Wayne want Jacob moved into a different fifth-grade classroom and want Nicole, who’s been temporarily barred... (full context)
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The next day, Kelly and Wayne call the Orono police department. The police visit Paul Melanson at his home, but Melanson... (full context)
Chapter 21: The Christian Civic League of Maine
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...school, Jacob sits next to Jonas during lunch. Jonas resists the bait, but Kelly and Wayne immediately send more emails to the staff at the elementary school, as well as attorney... (full context)
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...to establish a police presence, and a bathroom sign-in/sign-out procedure will be instated. Kelly and Wayne are confused; this plan is not what they were expecting. There is no commitment to... (full context)
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...boy or a girl,” and closing his editorial by asking for financial contributions. Kelly and Wayne fear that the League is just beginning its fight. (full context)
Chapter 22: Defending Nicole
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Ever since Nicole publicly transitioned, Wayne explained to Jonas that he needed to protect his sister—a thought that was confusing to... (full context)
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...ground. Both boys are punished, losing recess for the next two weeks. When Kelly and Wayne hear of the incident, they tell Jonas that they understand his frustration but that he... (full context)
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...but the story is being discussed everywhere, including online forums and blogs. Some comment that Wayne and Kelly should be “arrested for child abuse” for helping Nicole “persist in the mental... (full context)
Chapter 23: May I Have This Dance?
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...months earlier, Nicole had announced that there would be a father-daughter Valentine’s Day dance, and Wayne agreed to go. The dance is a family affair, and they all dress up. Wayne... (full context)
Chapter 24: She’s All Girl
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Reading some of the negative articles emboldens Wayne and shows him how Nicole needs him to fight for her rights. He also starts... (full context)
Chapter 25: Eyes On
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One day in April, Nicole admits to Kelly and Wayne that she had been about to go into the girls’ restroom when Bob Lucy had... (full context)
Chapter 28: Separate and Unequal
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...suit against the Orono school district. The Commission recommends “conciliation,” which is what Kelly and Wayne want—for Nicole to be integrated into the school in the way other girls were. (full context)
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While they wait, the Maines family learns that Wayne’s father, Bill, was hurt in an accident in which his clothes caught on fire. He... (full context)
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...family is particularly happy with the news, but they understand that the situation is untenable. Wayne can’t leave his job, however—finding another that is equally good seems impossible. And so, they... (full context)
Chapter 29: Going Stealth
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Wayne helps Kelly, Nicole, and Jonas move into their new home in Portland, which is only... (full context)
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Nicole isn’t feeling much better. A few weeks after the move, she tells Wayne that transgender kids either “commit suicide or they’re killed.” She had seen a documentary about... (full context)
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On November 25, 2009, Kelly and Wayne file a civil lawsuit against the school, arguing that its policy had intentionally and negligently... (full context)
Chapter 30: On the Outside Looking In
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...with worry. But a bit of good news arrives in March 2010, when Kelly and Wayne receive word that GLAD will represent them in their legal battles. (full context)
Chapter 31: Puberty Begins
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About a year after moving to Portland, Wayne sells the Orono house and moves into graduate student housing at the university there, while... (full context)
Chapter 33: A Time for Change
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...speak out against the “don’t ask don’t tell policy” in the military, and Nicole and Wayne attend her rally together. Wayne had been proud to serve in the military, but he... (full context)
Chapter 34: We Can’t Lose
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Wayne appears before the House Judiciary Committee of the Maine legislature. He reads a statement, explaining... (full context)
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Wayne also notes how little information there is online for fathers of transgender children. Every few... (full context)
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Nicole and Wayne do more campaigning against the bill. For two days, they walk around the statehouse to... (full context)
Chapter 35: First Kiss
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...scripted public remarks at the 2011 GLAD Spirit of Justice Award Dinner, introducing her father. Wayne and Nicole are recognized that evening for their activism. Nicole enjoys the attention and being... (full context)
Chapter 37: Someone Else’s Brother
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Sometimes it is exciting to be Nicole’s brother, however, as when Wayne, Nicole, and Jonas join other activists at the White House for LGBT Pride Month in... (full context)
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...to leave, Nicole lingers to take photographs with the White House reporters. Jonas immediately asks Wayne if he should go get her—his instinct always to take care of her. Wayne hugs... (full context)
Chapter 38: One Step Back
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In April 2012, Wayne and Nicole visit a satellite campus of the University of Maine for their annual Rainbow... (full context)
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In August 2013, Wayne finds something that Nicole had written on her Facebook page. She had watched an episode... (full context)
Chapter 39: Imagine
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One day, Wayne is asked to be a keynote speaker for a Civil Rights Day program at a... (full context)
Chapter 40: Our Story
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...are not. They simply act as they believe families should—with love and support. In 2013, Wayne sends out the family Christmas card detailing the family’s accomplishments at school, at work, and... (full context)
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On January 30, 2014, Wayne receives a call from the lawyers at GLAD. The Maineses have won their case in... (full context)
Chapter 41: Commencement
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...(managed by Cigna) because it is considered “cosmetic.” The Maineses know this evaluation is absurd. Wayne and GLAD talk to the University of Maine and he submits a second appeal. Two... (full context)
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...and art at the University of Maine in Orono. At the beginning of the year, Wayne receives an email from GLAAD asking if Nicole would be interested in auditioning for a... (full context)
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Nicole and Wayne travel to New York City together to shoot the episode. The limo driver who takes... (full context)
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...Nicole curtsies to each person and strikes a pose after accepting her degree. Kelly and Wayne are amazed that the time has gone so fast, and they hold back tears, hoping... (full context)