Becoming

by

Michelle Obama

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Michelle’s husband and the forty-fourth president of the United States. Barack is the son of a white Kansan mother, Ann Dunham, and a black Kenyan father, Barack Obama Sr. He is born and grows up in Hawaii, and though his parents’ marriage is short-lived, his mother prioritizes making sure that he gets a good education. Barack goes to college at Columbia before moving on to Harvard Law School. Michelle serves as his mentor when he becomes a summer associate at her law firm, between his first and second years at law school. Michelle is struck by his signature optimism, which she quickly realizes is not only his attitude towards his own everyday life, but also how he views the world. He wants to make a tangible difference in the country, particularly hoping to improve the lives of marginalized people and communities. This is what ultimately prompts him to become a state senator, before running for the Senate and then President of the United States. Campaigning on the promise of hope and change, Barack inspires other people to be optimistic about the future of the country, particularly as it falls into a deep economic recession. Barack, like Michelle, experiences a great deal of racism along his various campaigns and while President, but his election does demonstrate a tangible social change in the country (although not an eradication of racism altogether, as some believe). Barack takes the responsibility of the presidency extremely seriously, making sure that he understands both everyday issues of Americans as well as the complexities of social, political, and economic issues that he hopes to improve.

Barack Obama Quotes in Becoming

The Becoming quotes below are all either spoken by Barack Obama or refer to Barack Obama. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Optimism, Growth, and Fulfillment Theme Icon
).
Chapter 3 Quotes

At one point, one of the girls, a second, third, or fourth cousin of mine, gave me a sideways look and said, just a touch hotly, “How come you talk like a white girl?”

The question was pointed, meant as an insult or at least a challenge, but it also came from an earnest place. It held a kernel of something that was confusing for both of us. We seemed to be related but of two different worlds.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 40
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Chapter 5 Quotes

He toured the country, mesmerizing crowds with thundering calls for black people to shake off the undermining ghetto stereotypes and claim their long-denied political power. He preached a message of relentless, let’s-do-this self-empowerment. “Down with dope! Up with hope!” he’d call to his audiences.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Reverend Jesse Jackson (speaker), Barack Obama, Santita Jackson
Page Number: 62
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Chapter 7 Quotes

Your passion stays low, yet under no circumstance will you underperform. You live, as you always have, by the code of effort/result, and with it you keep achieving until you think you know the answers to all the questions—including the most important one. Am I good enough? Yes, in fact I am.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 92
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Chapter 9 Quotes

But listening to Barack, I began to understand that his version of hope reached far beyond mine: It was one thing to get yourself out of a stuck place, I realized. It was another thing entirely to try and get the place itself unstuck.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 118
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I informed Barack that if our relationship was going to work, he’d better get comfortable with the phone. “If I’m not talking to you,” I announced, “I might have to find another guy who’ll listen.” I was joking, but only a little.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 10 Quotes

“I’m just not fulfilled,” I said.

I see now how this must have come across to my mother, who was then in the ninth year of a job she’d taken primarily so she could help finance my college education, after years of not having a job so that she’d be free to sew my school clothes, cook my meals, and do laundry for my dad, who for the sake of our family spent eight hours a day watching gauges on a boiler at the filtration plant.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Michelle’s mother, Michelle’s father, Suzanne Alele
Page Number: 132
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Chapter 11 Quotes

I had never been one to hold city hall in high regard. Having grown up black and on the South Side, I had little faith in politics. Politics had traditionally been used against black folks, as a means to keep us isolated and excluded, leaving us undereducated, unemployed, and underpaid. I had grandparents who’d lived through the horror of Jim Crow laws and the humiliation of housing discrimination and basically mistrusted authority of any sort.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Valerie Jarrett, Dandy, Southside
Page Number: 151
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Chapter 12 Quotes

It sounds a little like a bad joke, doesn’t it? What happens when a solitude-loving individualist marries an outgoing family woman who does not love solitude one bit?

The answer, I’m guessing, is probably the best and most sustaining answer to nearly every question arising inside a marriage, no matter who you are or what the issue is: You find ways to adapt. If you’re in it forever, there’s really no choice.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Ann Dunham
Page Number: 171
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 13 Quotes

None of this was his fault, but it wasn’t equal, either, and for any woman who lives by the mantra that equality is important, this can be a little confusing. It was me who’d alter everything, putting my passions and career dreams on hold, to fulfill this piece of our dream. I found myself in a small moment of reckoning. Did I want it? Yes, I wanted it so much. And with this, I hoisted the needle and sank it into my flesh.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 189
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Chapter 14 Quotes

In the end, the year 2000 arrived without incident. After a couple of days of rest and some antibiotics, what indeed had turned out to be a nasty ear infection for Malia cleared up, returning our toddler to her normal bouncy state. Life would go on. It always did. On another perfect blue-sky day in Honolulu, we boarded a plane and flew home to Chicago, back into the chill of winter and into what for Barack was shaping up to be a political disaster.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 196
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 16 Quotes

Crazy rumors swirled about Barack: that he’d been schooled in a radical Muslim madrassa and sworn into the Senate on a Koran. That he refused to recite the Pledge of Allegiance. That he wouldn’t put his hand over his heart during the national anthem. That he had a close friend who was a domestic terrorist from the 1970s.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 242
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Chapter 17 Quotes

And yet a pernicious seed had been planted—a perception of me as disgruntled and vaguely hostile, lacking some expected level of grace. Whether it was originating from Barack’s political opponents or elsewhere, we couldn’t tell, but the rumors and slanted commentary almost always carried less-than-subtle messaging about race, meant to stir up the deepest and ugliest kind of fear within the voting public. Don’t let the black folks take over. They’re not like you. Their vision is not yours.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 262
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 19 Quotes

“On this day,” he said, “we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.”

I saw that truth mirrored again and again in the faces of the people who stood shivering in the cold to witness it. There were people in every direction, as far back as I could see. They filled every inch of the National Mall and the parade route. I felt as if our family were almost falling into their arms now. We were making a pact, all of us. You’ve got us; we’ve got you.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama (speaker)
Page Number: 299
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 20 Quotes

I understood how lucky we were to be living this way. The master suite in the residence was bigger than the entirety of the upstairs apartment my family had shared when I was growing up on Euclid Avenue. There was a Monet painting hanging outside my bedroom door and a bronze Degas sculpture in our dining room. I was a child of the South Side, now raising daughters who slept in rooms designed by a high-end interior decorator and who could custom order their breakfast from a chef.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 305
Explanation and Analysis:

There are pieces of public life, of giving up one’s privacy to become a walking, talking symbol of a nation, that can seem specifically designed to strip away part of your identity. But here, finally, speaking to those girls, I felt something completely different and pure—an alignment of my old self with this new role. Are you good enough? Yes, you are, all of you. I told the students of Elizabeth Garrett Anderson that they’d touched my heart. I told them that they were precious, because they truly were. And when my talk was over, I did what was instinctive. I hugged absolutely every single girl I could reach.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 320
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 23 Quotes

Later that day, Barack held a press conference downstairs, trying to put together words that might add up to something like solace. He wiped away tears as news cameras clicked furiously around him, understanding that truly there was no solace to be had. The best he could do was to offer his resolve—something he assumed would also get taken up by citizens and lawmakers around the country—to prevent more massacres by passing basic, sensible laws concerning how guns were sold.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 378
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 24 Quotes

He was a good father, dialed in and consistent in ways his own father had never been, but there were also things he’d sacrificed along the way. He’d entered into parenthood as a politician. His constituents and their needs had been with us all along.

It had to hurt a little bit, realizing he was so close to having more freedom and more time, just as our daughters were beginning to step away. But we had to let them go. The future was theirs, just as it should be.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
Explanation and Analysis:
Epilogue Quotes

For me, becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self. The journey doesn’t end. I became a mother, but I still have a lot to learn from and give to my children. I became a wife, but I continue to adapt to and be humbled by what it means to truly love and make a life with another person. I have become, by certain measures, a person of power, and yet there are moments still when I feel insecure or unheard.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
Explanation and Analysis:
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Barack Obama Quotes in Becoming

The Becoming quotes below are all either spoken by Barack Obama or refer to Barack Obama. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Optimism, Growth, and Fulfillment Theme Icon
).
Chapter 3 Quotes

At one point, one of the girls, a second, third, or fourth cousin of mine, gave me a sideways look and said, just a touch hotly, “How come you talk like a white girl?”

The question was pointed, meant as an insult or at least a challenge, but it also came from an earnest place. It held a kernel of something that was confusing for both of us. We seemed to be related but of two different worlds.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 40
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 5 Quotes

He toured the country, mesmerizing crowds with thundering calls for black people to shake off the undermining ghetto stereotypes and claim their long-denied political power. He preached a message of relentless, let’s-do-this self-empowerment. “Down with dope! Up with hope!” he’d call to his audiences.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Reverend Jesse Jackson (speaker), Barack Obama, Santita Jackson
Page Number: 62
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 7 Quotes

Your passion stays low, yet under no circumstance will you underperform. You live, as you always have, by the code of effort/result, and with it you keep achieving until you think you know the answers to all the questions—including the most important one. Am I good enough? Yes, in fact I am.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 92
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 9 Quotes

But listening to Barack, I began to understand that his version of hope reached far beyond mine: It was one thing to get yourself out of a stuck place, I realized. It was another thing entirely to try and get the place itself unstuck.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 118
Explanation and Analysis:

I informed Barack that if our relationship was going to work, he’d better get comfortable with the phone. “If I’m not talking to you,” I announced, “I might have to find another guy who’ll listen.” I was joking, but only a little.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 10 Quotes

“I’m just not fulfilled,” I said.

I see now how this must have come across to my mother, who was then in the ninth year of a job she’d taken primarily so she could help finance my college education, after years of not having a job so that she’d be free to sew my school clothes, cook my meals, and do laundry for my dad, who for the sake of our family spent eight hours a day watching gauges on a boiler at the filtration plant.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Michelle’s mother, Michelle’s father, Suzanne Alele
Page Number: 132
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 11 Quotes

I had never been one to hold city hall in high regard. Having grown up black and on the South Side, I had little faith in politics. Politics had traditionally been used against black folks, as a means to keep us isolated and excluded, leaving us undereducated, unemployed, and underpaid. I had grandparents who’d lived through the horror of Jim Crow laws and the humiliation of housing discrimination and basically mistrusted authority of any sort.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Valerie Jarrett, Dandy, Southside
Page Number: 151
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 12 Quotes

It sounds a little like a bad joke, doesn’t it? What happens when a solitude-loving individualist marries an outgoing family woman who does not love solitude one bit?

The answer, I’m guessing, is probably the best and most sustaining answer to nearly every question arising inside a marriage, no matter who you are or what the issue is: You find ways to adapt. If you’re in it forever, there’s really no choice.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Ann Dunham
Page Number: 171
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 13 Quotes

None of this was his fault, but it wasn’t equal, either, and for any woman who lives by the mantra that equality is important, this can be a little confusing. It was me who’d alter everything, putting my passions and career dreams on hold, to fulfill this piece of our dream. I found myself in a small moment of reckoning. Did I want it? Yes, I wanted it so much. And with this, I hoisted the needle and sank it into my flesh.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 189
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 14 Quotes

In the end, the year 2000 arrived without incident. After a couple of days of rest and some antibiotics, what indeed had turned out to be a nasty ear infection for Malia cleared up, returning our toddler to her normal bouncy state. Life would go on. It always did. On another perfect blue-sky day in Honolulu, we boarded a plane and flew home to Chicago, back into the chill of winter and into what for Barack was shaping up to be a political disaster.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 196
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 16 Quotes

Crazy rumors swirled about Barack: that he’d been schooled in a radical Muslim madrassa and sworn into the Senate on a Koran. That he refused to recite the Pledge of Allegiance. That he wouldn’t put his hand over his heart during the national anthem. That he had a close friend who was a domestic terrorist from the 1970s.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 242
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 17 Quotes

And yet a pernicious seed had been planted—a perception of me as disgruntled and vaguely hostile, lacking some expected level of grace. Whether it was originating from Barack’s political opponents or elsewhere, we couldn’t tell, but the rumors and slanted commentary almost always carried less-than-subtle messaging about race, meant to stir up the deepest and ugliest kind of fear within the voting public. Don’t let the black folks take over. They’re not like you. Their vision is not yours.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 262
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 19 Quotes

“On this day,” he said, “we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.”

I saw that truth mirrored again and again in the faces of the people who stood shivering in the cold to witness it. There were people in every direction, as far back as I could see. They filled every inch of the National Mall and the parade route. I felt as if our family were almost falling into their arms now. We were making a pact, all of us. You’ve got us; we’ve got you.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama (speaker)
Page Number: 299
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 20 Quotes

I understood how lucky we were to be living this way. The master suite in the residence was bigger than the entirety of the upstairs apartment my family had shared when I was growing up on Euclid Avenue. There was a Monet painting hanging outside my bedroom door and a bronze Degas sculpture in our dining room. I was a child of the South Side, now raising daughters who slept in rooms designed by a high-end interior decorator and who could custom order their breakfast from a chef.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 305
Explanation and Analysis:

There are pieces of public life, of giving up one’s privacy to become a walking, talking symbol of a nation, that can seem specifically designed to strip away part of your identity. But here, finally, speaking to those girls, I felt something completely different and pure—an alignment of my old self with this new role. Are you good enough? Yes, you are, all of you. I told the students of Elizabeth Garrett Anderson that they’d touched my heart. I told them that they were precious, because they truly were. And when my talk was over, I did what was instinctive. I hugged absolutely every single girl I could reach.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 320
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 23 Quotes

Later that day, Barack held a press conference downstairs, trying to put together words that might add up to something like solace. He wiped away tears as news cameras clicked furiously around him, understanding that truly there was no solace to be had. The best he could do was to offer his resolve—something he assumed would also get taken up by citizens and lawmakers around the country—to prevent more massacres by passing basic, sensible laws concerning how guns were sold.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 378
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 24 Quotes

He was a good father, dialed in and consistent in ways his own father had never been, but there were also things he’d sacrificed along the way. He’d entered into parenthood as a politician. His constituents and their needs had been with us all along.

It had to hurt a little bit, realizing he was so close to having more freedom and more time, just as our daughters were beginning to step away. But we had to let them go. The future was theirs, just as it should be.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
Explanation and Analysis:
Epilogue Quotes

For me, becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self. The journey doesn’t end. I became a mother, but I still have a lot to learn from and give to my children. I became a wife, but I continue to adapt to and be humbled by what it means to truly love and make a life with another person. I have become, by certain measures, a person of power, and yet there are moments still when I feel insecure or unheard.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
Explanation and Analysis: