Before We Were Yours

Before We Were Yours

by

Lisa Wingate

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Elliot Character Analysis

Avery Stafford’s fiancé. Elliot and Avery grew up together and slowly became boyfriend and girlfriend as teenagers. Elliot and Avery decide to get married because it seems like the next logical step and they do love each other, but there is no real passion between them. Elliot is a busy lawyer and his mother, Bitsy, is a busybody who tries to take control of the couple’s wedding plans. Elliot discourages Avery from investigating Judy Stafford’s past and especially from sharing details of that past with anyone. Avery begins rethinking their relationship and ultimately breaks off their engagement to date Trent Turner III instead.

Elliot Quotes in Before We Were Yours

The Before We Were Yours quotes below are all either spoken by Elliot or refer to Elliot . For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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). Note: all page numbers and citation info for the quotes below refer to the Ballantine edition of Before We Were Yours published in 2017.
Chapter 11 Quotes

Why haven’t Elliot and I ever come here?

The answer tastes bitter, so I don’t chew on it very long. Our schedules are always filled with other things. That’s why.

Who chooses the schedules we keep? We do, I guess.

Although, so often it seems as if there isn’t any choice. If we aren’t constantly slapping new paint on all the ramparts, the wind and the weather will sneak in and erode the accomplishments of a dozen previous generations of the family. The good life demands a lot of maintenance.

Related Characters: Avery Judith Stafford (speaker), Elliot
Page Number: 114
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Elliot Character Timeline in Before We Were Yours

The timeline below shows where the character Elliot appears in Before We Were Yours. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Chapter 1
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...and her decades-long marriage to her husband. While she listens, Avery wonders if she and Elliot will have a similarly happy marriage. While the party attendees sing “Happy Birthday,” Avery watches... (full context)
Chapter 3
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Avery’s mother calls to her to come downstairs, which makes Elliot chuckle on the phone. This comforts Avery because it’s so familiar. She notes that between... (full context)
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...about how often she’s wanted to go back to her old job in Maryland until Elliot briefly puts her on hold. Her thoughts turn to May and how certain May seemed... (full context)
Chapter 5
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...says she wants to visit Judy, but Honeybee gets her to stop by the DAR meeting—Elliot’s mother, Bitsy, is back in town and wants to see Avery, who knows that, unfortunately,... (full context)
Chapter 9
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...that she can go see May Crandall again. Honeybee thinks Avery wants to talk to Elliot to settle wedding plans and tells her that the azalea garden at their house should... (full context)
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...you find the person you’re meant to be with, because she’s never had that with Elliot. Instead, they grew up together and simply moved from friends to dating to engaged because... (full context)
Chapter 11
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...with envy at the beautiful scenery surrounding the office. Avery wonders why she’s never brought Elliot to Edisto and notes that the answer “tastes bitter”: their self-imposed schedules keep them too... (full context)
Chapter 13
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As Avery is walking to Trent’s, Elliot calls to tell her about a conversation he had with Bitsy—she’s anxious to have grandchildren... (full context)
Chapter 21
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...“ten-pound barbell lands on [her] chest” when she notices Bitsy’s car pull up; however, it’s Elliot who gets out of the car, not Bitsy. Avery excitedly runs over to greet him. (full context)
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Elliot explains that his flight got laid over and he wanted to see Avery for a... (full context)
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Elliot and Avery start talking about their wedding but can’t settle on any plans before Elliot... (full context)
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...is her son. As Avery walks out of the facility, she is tempted to call Elliot to talk to him about her feelings about Judy’s confusion but remembers what Elliot said... (full context)
Chapter 25
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...it’s been to reconcile this story with her knowledge of her family history. She told Elliot about what she learned from Hootsie and he told her to think of how this... (full context)
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...cottage, Trent notes that Avery isn’t wearing her engagement ring. Avery explains that she and Elliot decided they are better off as just friends. Avery wonders if Trent feels about her... (full context)