How the García Girls Lost Their Accents

by Julia Alvarez
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The four García girls are born into an ideology of traditional and conservative Dominican values around sex. Even though Dominican culture forbids overt sexuality outside of marriage, the girls have bizarre and perverted quasi-sexual encounters while still children on the Island. Various adult men sexualize them, and even their father takes on a flirty attitude with them. Incest is less of a taboo in their culture than it is in the U.S., and the girls have sexual encounters with their male first cousins, too. These encounters traumatize the girls and hinder healthy familial relationships. The subversive sexual behaviors suggest that the repressive traditional values in the Garcías’ native culture do not, in practice, prevent overt sexuality, but instead lead to inappropriate and harmful sexual outlets.

The conservative Dominican ideology starkly contrasts with the 1960s American sexual revolution, during which the girls later go through adolescence. In New York in the 1960s, the predominant culture among young people is one of embracing sexuality—when the girls are in college, their peers talk openly about sex, wear revealing clothing, and sleep around casually. The sisters view this open attitude towards sex as a part of the political and feminist revolution, which they support, but discrepancy between repressive Dominican ideas and progressive American ideas causes them inner turmoil. Yolanda is particularly conflicted about sex, and as a result she has the most (out of all four sisters) difficult and traumatic romantic relationships with men.. On the other hand, Sofia is the only sister who eventually completely rejects the traditional Dominican views on sex. She dismisses her parents’ opinions and marries a man they don’t approve of because he and Sofia had sex before marriage. Sofia ends up having the most stable relationship with her partner and is the only sister to have kids. Thus, the novel suggests that the progressive American model of sexuality (when it’s fully accepted) leads to healthy romantic and family relationships while traditional values—as well as mixed messages—about sex prevent stable relationships.

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Sexuality and Relationships Quotes in How the García Girls Lost Their Accents

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2. The Kiss Quotes

They grew up in the late sixties. Those were the days when wearing jeans and hoop earrings, smoking a little dope, and sleeping with their classmates were considered political acts against the military-industrial complex.

Related Characters: Sofia García, Carlos García
Page Number: 27
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Her sister’s breathing in the dark room was like having a powerful, tamed animal at the foot of her bed ready to protect her.

Related Characters: Sofia García, Yolanda García
Related Symbols: Cats
Page Number: 28-29
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His face grew red with fury, but hers was more terrible in its impassivity, a pale ivory moon, pulling and pulling at the tide of his anger, until it seemed he might drown in his own outpouring of fury.

Related Characters: Otto, Sofia García, Carlos García
Page Number: 30
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3. The Four Girls Quotes

Fifi drops out of college and goes off on a church trip to Peru, chaperoned, of course, otherwise we wouldn’t have let her go. We don’t believe in all this freedom.

Related Characters: Laura de la Torre (speaker), Otto, Sofia García
Page Number: 59
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4. Joe Quotes

Yo’s words fell into the dark, mute cavern of John’s mouth. Cielo, Cielo, the word echoed. And Yo was running, like the mad, into the safety of her first tongue, where the proudly monolingual John could not catch her, even if he tried.

Related Characters: John, Yolanda García
Related Symbols: Nicknames
Page Number: 72
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Out it flies, delighting in its newfound freedom, its dark hooded beak and tiny head dropping like its sex between arching wings.

Related Characters: Dr. Payne, Yolanda García
Related Symbols: Black Birds
Page Number: 83-84
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5. The Rudy Elmenhurst Story Quotes

He had told them he was seeing “a Spanish girl,” and he reported they said that should be interesting for him to find out about people from other cultures. It bothered me that they should treat me like a geography lesson for their son. But I didn’t have the vocabulary back then to explain even to myself what annoyed me about their remark.

Related Characters: Yolanda García (speaker), Rudy
Page Number: 98
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6. A Regular Revolution Quotes

The pictures all celebrated women and their bodies, so it wasn’t technically about sex as she had understood it up to then. But there were women exploring “what their bodies were all about” and a whole chapter on lesbians. (Things, Mami said, examining the pictures, to be ashamed of.)

Related Characters: Laura de la Torre (speaker), Carla García (speaker), Sandra García (speaker), Yolanda García (speaker), Sofia García (speaker)
Page Number: 110
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Mundín wiggles his eyebrows. “How many taboos can we break here? Let’s see.” He enumerates: incest, group sex, lesbian sex, virgin sex—

Related Characters: Mundín García (speaker), Yolanda García, Sofia García, Manuel, Sandra García, Carla García
Page Number: 125
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There, among the pink vanities with baskets of little towels and talcum powder and brushes, we come up with our plot. We reach out our hands and seal our pact. Yoyo rallies us with “¡Que viva la revolución!”

Related Characters: Carla García (speaker), Sandra García (speaker), Yolanda García (speaker), Sofia García (speaker), Manuel
Related Symbols: Pink
Page Number: 125
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12. The Human Body Quotes

In a corner, hoses lay coiled like a family of dormant snakes. Fifi and I lined up against a far wall. Mundín faced us, his hands nervously working the snake into a rounder and rounder ball. “Go on,” he said. “Take them down.”

Related Characters: Yolanda García (speaker), Mundín García (speaker), Sofia García (speaker)
Related Symbols: Pink
Page Number: 235
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13. Still Lives Quotes

Sharp points came out of her head, the rays of the Virgin’s halo, though they could just as well have been the horns of a demon woman. Her hair coiled in complex curls over her shoulders like snakes. Her head was fully formed, but her face was still a blank.

Related Characters: Don Jose (speaker), Sandra García (speaker)
Page Number: 249
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