Julia meets Connor, a white boy from the affluent suburb of Evanston, at a used bookstore in downtown Chicago. After bonding over their love of literature, Connor and Julia begin seeing one another regularly, even in the face of Julia’s mother’s restrictive rules. Though Julia is worried that Connor will look down on her or judge her because of the poor, working-class neighborhood she comes from, Connor is always kind to Julia—if slightly insensitive about her background. Julia believes she loves Connor, and she loses her virginity to him. As Julia’s home situation worsens, she’s grounded and banned from going into the city or using her cell phone. She calls Connor from a pay phone each day, but when her depression intensifies, Connor admits that he doesn’t know how to help Julia. Julia feels abandoned by Connor, and their estrangement contributes to her suicide attempt. After the attempt, an outpatient program, and a trip to Mexico, Julia is relieved to come home and find that Connor has been trying to get in touch with her for weeks—she doesn’t tell him all she’s been through, but they begin casually dating once again. After they’re both accepted into schools in New York for college, Julia takes comfort in the fact that they might see each other even after leaving Chicago, but doesn’t pin all her hopes on Connor, demonstrating a healthy detachment from him and an investment in her own independent growth. Julia’s intense but conflicting feelings for Connor—combined with her desire to keep him at arm’s length—are a large part of her shame over her working-class roots and her cultural background.
Connor Quotes in I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter
The I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter quotes below are all either spoken by Connor or refer to Connor. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one: Note: all page numbers and citation info for the quotes below refer to the Knopf edition of I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter published in 2017.).
Chapter 15 Quotes
Connor’s house has a giant wraparound porch and enormous windows. It’s as big as our entire apartment building. Part of me wonders if I should go back home. I feel nervous and start tugging at my hair.
Connor Character Timeline in I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter
The timeline below shows where the character Connor appears in I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
...about their favorite—and least-favorite—books for a few minutes, Julia and the boy, whose name is Connor, introduce themselves to one another. Julia feels an intense attraction to Connor, and isn’t sure... (full context)
...parents aren’t home, and she’s grateful for the privacy. She’s starving, even though she and Connor ate lunch, and she rifles through the pantry and fridge searching for something to eat.... (full context)
...things that are bad in her life—her dead sister, her “shitty neighborhood,” her overbearing parents. Connor says he wishes he could understand what she’s going through, but admits he doesn’t. He... (full context)
...like. Though she doesn’t know what the future holds—who she’ll be, whether she’ll continue seeing Connor—she’s excited for what’s to come. She finds herself thinking of Mexico, and of Esteban, and... (full context)