If I Stay

Gramps Character Analysis

Gramps is Dad’s father. He is a man of few words, but supports and loves his son’s family and their involvement in music. He is sad when Mia’s Dad leaves his band, because Gramps loved listening to the music Dad played and the lyrics that he wrote, which Gramps found to be like poetry. Gramps also supports Mia’s passion for the cello, and escorts her to San Francisco for a weekend for her Juilliard audition. While Mia is in a coma, he is the only person to privately let her know that he will understand her decision if she decides to leave.

Gramps Quotes in If I Stay

The If I Stay quotes below are all either spoken by Gramps or refer to Gramps. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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). Note: all page and citation info for the quotes below refers to the Speak edition of If I Stay published in 2010.
12:19 PM Quotes

When we got back home, Gramps dropped me off and enveloped me in a hug. Normally, he was a handshaker, maybe a back-patter on really special occasions. His hug was strong and tight, and I knew it was his way of telling me that he’d had a wonderful time. “Me, too, Gramps,” I whispered.

Related Characters: Mia Hall (speaker), Gramps
Page Number: 51
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2:48 AM Quotes

“It’s okay,” he tells me. “If you want to go. Everyone wants you to stay. I want you to stay more than I’ve ever wanted anything in my life…But that’s what I want and I could see why it might not be what you want. So I just wanted to tell you that I understand if you go. It’s okay if you have to leave us. It’s okay if you want to stop fighting.”

Related Characters: Gramps (speaker), Mia Hall
Page Number: 181
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“I’d played that part of my life out. It was time. I didn’t even think twice about it, in spite of what Gramps or Henry might think. Sometimes you make choices in life and sometimes choices make you. Does that make any sense?”

Related Characters: Denny Hall (Dad) (speaker), Gramps, Henry
Page Number: 192
Explanation and Analysis:

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Gramps Character Timeline in If I Stay

The timeline below shows where the character Gramps appears in If I Stay. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
10:12 AM
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...since her mother and father haven’t come for her. She wonders if her Gran and Gramps—who were expecting the family for dinner—or Kim knows what has happened. As the helicopter passes... (full context)
12:19 PM
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...area. Her grandmother, Gran, is chatting away, a hallmark of her anxiety, while her grandfather, Gramps, expresses his grief in silence. Gran believes in angels, and often says that birds she... (full context)
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...audition in San Francisco herself, but she sprained her ankle at the last moment, and Gramps stepped in to escort Mia. After a grueling audition that requires her to play five... (full context)
3:47 PM
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...and nurses check on her in a constant rotation. A social worker tells Gran and Gramps that Mia is in “grave condition,” and that she is in a coma in the... (full context)
4:47 PM
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...not she suffered brain damage until she wakes up. The social worker invites Gran and Gramps to come visit Mia in her hospital room. (full context)
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Though Mia knows Gran and Gramps to be tough people, both of them pause when they see the extent of Mia’s... (full context)
5:40 PM
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After visiting Mia in the ICU, Gran and Gramps discuss whether it is true that Mia will be the one to decide whether she... (full context)
2:48 AM
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...While Gran is as chatty as ever and tells Mia all of the family news, Gramps looks exhausted from the day’s events. Gran reports that she saw a crossbill on her... (full context)
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Eventually Gran and Willow leave the ICU, leaving Mia with Gramps, who cries over Mia’s body. He speaks to her body, telling her that while he... (full context)
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Meanwhile, Gramps is upset at Dad’s transformation into a more parental figure for reasons Mia can’t figure... (full context)
4:57 AM
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...if she decides to follow her family in death, Mia wonders if her Dad, like Gramps, would understand if she gave up “the fight.” She sings “Waiting for Vengeance” to herself,... (full context)