Love in the Time of Cholera
by Gabriel García Márquez
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In Love in the Time of Cholera, Gabriel García Márquez shows that public appearances do not always reflect private reality. Despite what high society promotes, being wealthy and having a stable marriage (the main goals of the upper class) do not necessarily guarantee happiness. During her marriage to Dr. Juvenal Urbino, Fermina Daza realizes that the impression of contentment she emanates to the outside world does not reflect her experience in the house, where she is a servant to her husband. Through this personal dissatisfaction and her husband’s adultery with a mixed-race woman, Miss Barbara Lynch, Fermina discovers that the values of high society regarding social class, the role of women, and race do not actually conform to people’s desires. Instead, the novel suggests, challenging certain social codes may be the proper path to achieving a measure of freedom and happiness.

The focus of high society on social class and norms wrongfully suggests that social status reflects a person’s worth or happiness. In a world obsessed with status, family can prove an obstacle to personal happiness. When an adolescent Fermina Daza decides that she wants to marry Florentino Ariza, who has a promising future but is an illegitimate son in a poor family, Fermina’s tyrannical father Lorenzo Daza opposes the project. This suggests that a conservative family’s view of marriage is not meant to promote love or happiness, but rather social advancement. Paradoxically, though, upper-class people trust that wealth and power generate happiness. In the case of Fermina and Juvenal, people believe that the beautiful, practical house they own guarantees that their marriage will be a happy one. Dr. Urbino, too, naïvely assumes that the security he brings his wife makes her happy.

However, material comfort is unrelated to personal happiness, as it still disguises underlying power dynamics. Despite her wealth, Fermina is secretly miserable. She realizes that being married and taking care of a house is a form of servitude. Focused on the logistics of everyday life, she sees herself as “a deluxe servant” whose only goal is to take care of her husband. The power she has as a member of the upper class does not give her freedom. Rather, “she was absolute monarch of a vast empire of happiness, which had been built by [her husband] and for him alone. She knew that he loved her above all else, more than anyone else in the world, but only for his own sake: she was in his holy service.” Dr. Urbino recognizes this himself when he says that “[a] man should have two wives: one to love and one to sew his buttons.” He assumes that being a wife necessarily entails taking care of the household and of her husband. He, along with the rest of society, does not realize that Fermina might actually long for equality or personal realization beyond the domain of the household.

As these personal aspirations clash with societal expectations, it becomes clear that social norms serve primarily to limit people’s lives—not to lead them to fulfillment and contentment.  Much of the sincere joy that Dr. Urbino and Fermina experience during their marriage derives from their opposition to the small-minded nature of high society. Dr. Urbino defies traditional norms by marrying a woman who is not part of the local nobility. Although people initially reject Fermina because of that, she soon makes her way in society thanks to her natural demeanor, which convinces everyone that she deserves to be admired and respected. More generally, Fermina and Juvenal bring modernity and progress to the city: “The most absurd element in their situation was that they never seemed so happy in public as during those years of misery. For this was the time of their greatest victories over the subterranean hostility of a milieu that resisted accepting them as they were: different and modern, and for that reason transgressors against the traditional order.” Happiness, in other words, can come from challenging the system and motivating society to evolve in the public sphere. However, the enjoyment that Fermina and Juvenal feel relates exclusively to their public role, not their private life—yet it is easy to confuse the two.

Ultimately, it is when characters are able to forgo tradition for their true emotional desires that they prove happiest. Dr. Urbino’s adulterous relationship with Barbara Lynch is doubly scandalous because Miss Lynch is a “mulatta” (a mixed-race woman). Having assimilated society’s racist beliefs, Fermina believes that her husband would never be attracted to a black woman. She does not realize, instead, that her husband feels joyous and free in the presence of his lover. Similarly, when Fermina and Florentino develop a romantic relationship in their old age, many people are aghast. América Vicuña, Florentino’s adolescent lover, says that old men don’t marry, thus confusing social norms with individual desire. In turn, Fermina’s children do not approve of their mother’s relationship, judging that love at that age is obscene.

In both cases, people are not able to understand that actual happiness, love, and attraction are not tied to society’s views about how people should behave. Without necessarily intending to, Dr. Urbino’s relationship with Miss Lynch and Fermina’s with Florentino challenge social norms, revealing that personal happiness is most likely to flourish outside of rigid social categories. The novel thus suggests that the conservative values of high society are an obstacle to people’s happiness and that people are most likely to enjoy freedom beyond rigid social categories.

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Social Norms vs. Personal Fulfillment Quotes in Love in the Time of Cholera

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Chapter 1 Quotes

No one ever thought that a marriage rooted in such foundations could have any reason not to be happy.

Related Characters: Fermina Daza, Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle
Page Number and Citation: 19
Explanation and Analysis:
After Dr. Urbino’s mother dies, Fermina and Dr. Urbino leave his aristocratic palace to move to a residential district built for nouveaux riches, non-aristocratic people who have recently become wealthy. The house has a lot of advantages. It is airy, efficient, and capable of remaining cool under the oppressive heat of the city. This sets a seemingly perfect environment for the new couple’s marriage. By associating the house’s physical “foundations” to the “foundations” of the couple’s life, outside observers associates material sturdiness to marital bliss. However, people’s assessment that material stability is the basis on which people’s happiness depends is Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum e

Chapter 3 Quotes

She herself had not realized that every step she took from her house to school, every spot in the city, every moment of her recent past, did not seem to exist except by the grace of Florentino Ariza. Hildebranda pointed this out to her, but she did not admit it because she never would have admitted that Florentino Ariza, for better or for worse, was the only thing that had ever happened to her in her life.

Related Characters: Fermina Daza, Florentino Ariza, Hildebranda Sánchez
Page Number and Citation: 132-133
Explanation and Analysis:
After Fermina Daza rejects Florentino Ariza, Fermina’s cousin Hildebranda Sánchez comes to visit her. During this trip, Hildebranda realizes that all of Fermina’s explanations about the city involved her memories with Florentino. This highlights not Fermina’s enduring love for him but, rather, the utter solitude of her life, in which she is deprived of other friends or activities. This scene thus provides an explanation for Fermina’s rejection of Florentino. It suggests that Fermina loved (or thought she loved) Florentino because he brought real life and excitement to her monotone existence, kept stale and boring under her father’s supervision. After her Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae

In this way he learned that she did not want to marry him, but did feel joined to his life because of her immense gratitude to him for having corrupted her. She often said to him:

“I adore you because you made me a whore.”

Said in another way, she was right. Florentino Ariza had stripped her of the virginity of a conventional marriage, more pernicious than congenital virginity or the abstinence of widowhood. He had taught her that nothing one does in bed is immoral if it helps to perpetuate love.

Related Characters: Widow Nazaret (speaker), Florentino Ariza
Page Number and Citation: 151
Explanation and Analysis:
Florentino Ariza is the first man Widow Nazaret sleeps with after the death of her husband. From that moment onward, she leads a life of sexual promiscuity, enjoying the company of as many men as she pleases, far from the monogamous obligations of marriage. Her self-definition as “a whore” suggests that she has re-appropriated a traditionally negative term and turned it into a positive expression. Widow Nazaret is not a prostitute who makes men pay for sex, but merely a woman who enjoys non-conventional sexual affairs, without any form of commitment. She considers that becoming a metaphorical “whore” in this Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit neque odit. Tenetur qui dignissimos. Qui et ut. Voluptate labore corporis. Hic tempore laborum. Nisi qu

Chapter 4 Quotes

But in those solitary Masses they began to be aware that once again they were mistresses of their fate, after having renounced not only their family name but their own identity in exchange for a security that was no more than another of a bride’s many illusions. They alone knew how tiresome was the man they loved to distraction, who perhaps loved them but whom they had to continue nurturing until his last breath as if he were a child, suckling him, changing his soiled diapers, distracting him with a mother’s tricks to ease his terror at going out each morning to face reality. And nevertheless, when they watched him leave the house, this man they themselves had urged to conquer the world, then they were the ones left with the terror that he would never return. That was their life. Love, if it existed, was something separate: another life.

Related Characters: Florentino Ariza
Page Number and Citation: 202-203
Explanation and Analysis:
Throughout his hundreds of affairs, Florentino Ariza discovers that widows are free and happy beings. Married life, by contrast, often brings women ambivalent feelings of love and suffering. The description of most married women’s life is grim and depressing. Despite women’s initial illusions, they soon realize that security, care, and fidelity cannot replace the true joy of love. However, they soon resign themselves to their fate, accepting that love is a vain ideal they must learn to renounce. This state of affairs contrasts starkly with the romantic and sexual freedom that women can find outside of marriage—and that Florentino often Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus poss

Instead, she was something she never dared admit even to herself: a deluxe servant. In society she came to be the woman most loved, most catered to, and by the same token most feared, but in nothing was she more demanding or less forgiving than in the management of her house. She always felt as if her life had been lent to her by her husband: she was absolute monarch of a vast empire of happiness, which had been built by him and for him alone. She knew that he loved her above all else, more than anyone else in the world, but only for his own sake: she was in his holy service.

Related Characters: Fermina Daza, Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle
Page Number and Citation: 222
Explanation and Analysis:
During her marriage, Fermina realizes that her hopes and illusions about the woman she wanted to become have never come to pass. Instead of finding true love, joy, and, most importantly, independence in marriage, she has taken on the role of a servant, whose actions all tend to the service of another being: her husband. Fermina’s private disillusion contrasts with her public role, in which she is revered. This contradiction at the center of her life—as a powerful and, simultaneously, subservient being—brings her deep unhappiness. This unhappiness emphasizes that what Fermina is experiencing is not directly because her husband is Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo.

He was a perfect husband: he never picked up anything from the floor, or turned out a light, or closed a door. In the morning darkness, when he found a button missing from his clothes, she would hear him say: “A man should have two wives: one to love and one to sew on his buttons.”

Related Characters: Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle (speaker), Fermina Daza
Page Number and Citation: 222
Explanation and Analysis:
After describing Fermina’s frustration in her marriage, the narrator describes Dr. Juvenal’s lack of participation in the household. This passage is ironic in tone. It associates being “a perfect husband” with performing absolutely no domestic functions in the house. In other words, what society expects a “perfect husband” to be is an uninvolved man who expects others—namely, his wife—to take care of his every need. In this light, Dr. Urbino’s comment about having two wives seems particularly cruel, since he assumes that his wife’s goal is to be a servant to him. These opinions about marriage contrast with his social Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui

Over the years they both reached the same wise conclusion by different paths: it was not possible to live together in any other way, or love in any other way, and nothing in this world was more difficult than love.

Related Characters: Fermina Daza, Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle
Page Number and Citation: 223
Explanation and Analysis:
After Fermina Daza and Dr. Urbino try exchanging roles in the household for one day, Dr. Urbino admits that he is incapable of managing the house like Fermina does. In turn, Fermina finds her husband’s helplessness endearing. Dr. Urbino adds that Fermina, too, would be unable to take on his job for a day. Instead of growing bitter from this experiment, both of them thus accept that their respective tasks are both difficult and worthy of respect. The non-interchangeability of their roles at home convinces the couple that this situation is the only logical and conceivable one. Although seemingly based Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit neque odit. Tenetur qui dignissimos. Qui et ut. Voluptate labore corporis. Hic tempore laborum. Nisi quia ea. Quia soluta itaque. Deleniti nisi earum. Ad tenetur la

Chapter 6 Quotes

Still looking at her, he said without warning:

“I am going to marry.”

She looked into his eyes with a flash of uncertainty, her spoon suspended in midair, but then she recovered and smiled.

“That’s a lie,” she said. “Old men don’t marry.”

Related Characters: Florentino Ariza (speaker), América Vicuña (speaker), Fermina Daza, Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle
Page Number and Citation: 289
Explanation and Analysis:
After Dr. Urbino dies and Florentino finally contacts Fermina to tell her he still loves her, he wants to devote his energy to this romantic pursuit and thus decides to put an end to his sexual relationship with América. When he reveals his hope to marry Fermina—whom he does not mention by name—to América, the young girl panics then reassures herself by realizing that Florentino is too old for that. This scene is significant in the way it highlights América’s paradoxical mix of maturity and innocence. She is clearly old enough to have internalized the fact that old people in Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit neque odit. Tenetur qui dignissimos. Qui et ut. Voluptate labore corporis. Hic tempore laborum. Nisi q

It had to be a mad dream, one that would give her the courage she would need to discard the prejudices of a class that had not always been hers but had become hers more than anyone’s. It had to teach her to think of love as a state of grace: not the means to anything but the alpha and omega, an end in itself.

Related Characters: Florentino Ariza, Fermina Daza
Related Symbols: Letters
Page Number and Citation: 293
Explanation and Analysis:
After Fermina becomes a widow, Florentino resolves to make her love him through love letters, as he once did in their youth. This time, however, he attempts to curb his passion and go about this process rationally. In order for her to want to be with him, she needs to share his concept of love. Florentino implies that, because of the norms of high society. Fermina has grown to see love as a means to an end. Her marriage to Dr. Urbino can be seen as an example of this, since she married him not out of love but out Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit nequ

One day, at the height of desperation, she had shouted at him: “You don’t understand how unhappy I am.” Unperturbed, he took off his eyeglasses with a characteristic gesture, he flooded her with the transparent waters of his childlike eyes, and in a single phrase he burdened her with the weight of his unbearable wisdom: “Always remember that the most important thing in a good marriage is not happiness, but stability.” With the first loneliness of her widowhood she had understood that the phrase did not conceal the miserable threat that she had attributed to it at the time, but was the lodestone that had given them both so many happy hours.

Related Characters: Fermina Daza (speaker), Dr. Juvenal Urbino de la Calle (speaker)
Page Number and Citation: 300
Explanation and Analysis:
After Dr. Urbino’s death, Fermina reflects on her relationship with her husband. She realizes that, although she often felt miserable during her marriage, she sees this relationship in a different light now that it is over. At the time, she considered herself unhappy in an emotional way. She felt dissatisfied with her role at home, frustrated by her husband’s apathy, and disappointed with the fact that marriage had not conformed to her high expectations. However, she now understands happiness in a different way, as the absence of true difficulties. The material security and devotion that Dr. Urbino was able to Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaq

“A century ago, life screwed that poor man and me because we were too young, and now they want to do the same thing because we are too old.” She lit a cigarette with the end of the one she was smoking, and then she gave vent to all the poison that was gnawing at her insides.

“They can all go to hell,” she said. “If we widows have any advantage, it is that there is no one left to give us orders.”

Related Characters: Fermina Daza (speaker), Florentino Ariza, Ofelia Urbino Daza
Page Number and Citation: 323-324
Explanation and Analysis:
When Ofelia criticizes Fermina and Florentino’s relationship, arguing that they are too old for romance, Fermina rebukes her daughter. As usual, Fermina’s words reveal her authoritative, stubborn nature. Her sense of freedom and independence also comes through. As Florentino had predicted, Fermina has become like other widows who realize that the death of their husband brings them grief but also newfound control over their own lives. Deprived of marital responsibilities, they now feel free to take part in relationships with whomever they want. Despite what society thinks, being old can thus bring liberation and love, not stagnation and apathy. Fermina’s Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus