Make Your Home Among Strangers

by

Jennine Capó Crucet

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Lizet’s high-school sweetheart, Omar, is a tough but sensitive boy—obsessed with his Acura Integra, Omar goes through the motions of school and work hoping all the while that Lizet will return to Miami and settle down with him. Omar loves Lizet intensely, and their passion for one another is undeniable—yet she finds herself unwilling to commit to Omar, afraid that choosing a life with him will preclude her from pursuit her own education and finding out who she truly is, even as Omar attempts to tighten his grip on her each time she visits home.

Omar Quotes in Make Your Home Among Strangers

The Make Your Home Among Strangers quotes below are all either spoken by Omar or refer to Omar. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Chapter 8 Quotes

[…] I started to tell anyone who asked that Omar was a monster. He was an animal—more like an animal than a human. It seemed like what other people wanted to hear. […] Other girls would feel bad for me and claim they understood: the girl who'd made everyone hot chocolate, Caroline, even went so far as to mention she'd read The House on Mango Street in AP English. She said she knew about the kinds of relationships that plagued my community, had nodded in a solemn way when I told her yes, Omar could be rough. […]

I was happy to have something to add to those late nights in the dorm's common room when I was otherwise quiet, to be included in conversations even if I didn't totally understand the part I was playing. When everyone around you thinks they already know what your life is like, it's easier to play in to that idea—it was easier for me to make Omar sound like a psycho papi chulo who wanted to control me. At the very least, it made trying to make friends simpler than it would've been had I tried to be a more accurate version of myself.

Related Characters: Lizet Ramirez (speaker), Omar, Caroline
Page Number: 65-66
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Chapter 21 Quotes

—Damn, El, he said. Do I need to ask if that's a yes? He laughed at his own joke. I didn't look at him—I couldn't yet. I looked at the ring. My

almost-engagement ring. A ring that said, You're a good investment. It felt heavy on my finger.

Related Characters: Omar (speaker)
Page Number: 210-211
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Chapter 22 Quotes

I didn't want to see myself anymore—I recognized it as exactly that, even at the beginning of it, when I couldn't name it: Lizet playing a part. I'd thought a shirt from Leidy's clubbing stash would cover me by not covering me, would turn me back into El, but I was separate from her now, aware I was putting her on, and that colored everything. Omar was grabbing my wrists to stop me from running away again.

Related Characters: Lizet Ramirez (speaker), Leidy Ramirez, Omar
Page Number: 223
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Chapter 23 Quotes

Mostly I was disappointed in Leidy and Omar for not recognizing what was really going on with Mami: she was becoming her own person finally, trying to learn who that even was via a newfound passion. So maybe she’d retrofitted the circumstances of her life to fit in to her new surroundings. So what? I of all people couldn't fault my mom for having the wherewithal to adapt her behavior, for being a creature thrust into a new environment and doing perhaps exactly what it took to survive there.

Page Number: 241-242
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Chapter 30 Quotes

I slapped my own chest and yelled, Why don't you watch the news and figure it out yourself like I did?

—That’s why you're mad at me? EI, what the fuck were you gonna do from up there?

I pointed at him and said, Exactly, Omar! That right there, what you just said? That's exactly why I'm here. To fucking do something since you and Leidy obviously didn't.

—Oh! Okay yeah, he yelled. So now you know how to handle everything, huh? You got it all figured out, don't you. You think you're so fucking smart.

He threw the car in reverse, shook his head as he turned the wheel. I'd made it halfway up the concrete leading to my dad's door when Omar lowered the passenger-side window and yelled my name, made me stop.

—Whose fault is it that you weren't here, huh? Maybe you need to think about that.

Related Characters: Lizet Ramirez (speaker), Omar (speaker), Leidy Ramirez, Lourdes Ramirez (Lizet’s Mother)
Related Symbols: Ariel Hernandez
Page Number: 310
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Omar Character Timeline in Make Your Home Among Strangers

The timeline below shows where the character Omar appears in Make Your Home Among Strangers. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Chapter 5
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...deposit waiver to confirm her place right away without telling anyone, not even her boyfriend, Omar. Lizet didn’t tell anyone she’d been accepted for weeks. Though Leidy didn’t much care, Lizet’s... (full context)
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Lourdes asks Lizet if she is planning to see Omar while she’s in town. Lizet privately doesn’t even know if she wants to continue her... (full context)
Chapter 8
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Lizet and Omar have been together since the summer before her junior year of high school. Omar graduated... (full context)
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Omar knows the truth about Lizet’s problems at school, but despite having confided in him, Lizet... (full context)
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...her first semester at college, Lizet has found herself telling her new college friends about Omar in the terms she knows they want to hear—she describes him as an “animal” and... (full context)
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Lizet remembers how, on her last night in Miami, Omar became upset and defensive when a miscommunication led him to believe that Lizet was going... (full context)
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Lizet decides to call Omar once she is already at the airport, using a pay phone across from her gate.... (full context)
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Before hanging up, Omar asks Lizet if she’s heard anything more about her academic integrity investigation—she tells him she... (full context)
Chapter 9
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...a protest going on in support of Ariel. When she picks up the phone, though, Omar’s voice is on the other end—Lizet has picked up the phone just as he began... (full context)
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...many people in her first weeks either misheard or mispronounced her name. Back in Miami, Omar and all her other friends call her El—she did not, however, want to use her... (full context)
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Lourdes asks if Omar is coming to their family’s Noche Buena celebration—he was there the year before, but Lizet... (full context)
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Lizet takes the cordless phone into her and Leidy’s bedroom—but rather than calling Omar, she calls her father. When he picks up, she asks if he called earlier, but... (full context)
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...mother goodbye as she is waking up, and lies that she is going to meet Omar for breakfast. Lourdes urges Lizet sleepily to be nice to Omar, who loves her “so... (full context)
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...she is busy changing Dante’s diaper. She teases Lizet, asking if they are her and Omar’s divorce papers, but Lizet quickly reveals that she didn’t go to see Omar; she went... (full context)
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One of Lizet’s cousins asks her where Omar is, and Leidy interjects, revealing that Lizet has broken up with Omar. Lizet feels ill,... (full context)
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...down for dinner, Lizet notices that there is a place card at her table with Omar’s name on it. Lizet wonders whether her mother went behind her back and told Zoila... (full context)
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...what it was doing on the table—she wants to know if Zoila forgot to take Omar out, or if Lourdes told Zoila to leave it there. Lourdes suggests that Lizet needs... (full context)
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Lizet and her mother continue to argue—about Omar, about Lourdes’s disinterest in Lizet’s experiences at school, about the sacrifices each is making. When... (full context)
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...from Lizet and Leidy; Lizet spends the whole meal telling anyone who will listen that Omar is busy at work and will be present for the meal next year. (full context)
Chapter 21
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That night, once Lourdes and Leidy fall asleep, Lizet calls Omar on the kitchen phone. She is surprised at how good it feels to hear his... (full context)
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Lizet tells Omar about the disastrous Noche Buena party. She lets him know that her entire family was... (full context)
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Over the rest of the break, though, Omar and Lizet have sex frequently. After the two drive out to the beach on Christmas... (full context)
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...is so stressed that she can’t even get excited about celebrating New Year’s Eve with Omar. (full context)
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When Omar comes over with coffee and breakfast in hand, Lizet tells him the good news about... (full context)
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Omar and Lizet drive to a nearby liquor store to pick up some alcohol. Lizet takes... (full context)
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It takes a very long time for the words to sink in—Lizet and Omar are already at the club before she really thinks about them—but soon Lizet wonders what... (full context)
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...what she thinks is the bathroom. The club is unfamiliar, though, and Lizet gets lost. Omar comes up to her and tells her to be careful taking off on her own,... (full context)
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...her mother, and all the other Cubans are “supposed to be […] these angry exiles.” Omar is confused by what Lizet is saying—when she looks up at him, she is reminded... (full context)
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Lizet begins screaming that she wants to go—Omar tries to calm her down and restrain her. Lizet notices that other people in the... (full context)
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In the backseat of Omar’s car, though, Lizet cannot get into the zone. The sex is passionless and Lizet frets... (full context)
Chapter 23
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...for the rally with her mother, and she feels “wrecked” despite having felt sober when Omar dropped her off last night.  She steps out of the shower and goes into Leidy’s... (full context)
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...is surprised to find that she actually empathizes with her mother. She is disappointed in Omar and Leidy for writing Lourdes off as crazy when it seems as if Lourdes is... (full context)
Chapter 26
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...Lizet answers that she’ll probably hang out around Miami and go to the beach with Omar, Jillian insists that Lizet needs to start applying for a job or an internship: “What... (full context)
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...ring isn’t really from her mom, and she admits that it is, in fact, from Omar. There is an awkward moment, but it passes, and Lizet feels she have “saved” their... (full context)
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As the semester goes on, Lizet keeps wearing Omar’s ring on her right hand instead of her left. She thrives in Dr. Kaufmann’s class,... (full context)
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Meanwhile, Lizet calls Omar late almost every night. She’s been asking him to check in on Lourdes and Leidy... (full context)
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Lizet is shocked to see her mother on the screen, as neither Leidy nor Omar have indicated in their phone calls that Lourdes was still involved with the Ariel protests.... (full context)
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Lizet has asked Omar to pick her up from the airport—she hasn’t told him the true reason for her... (full context)
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Now, as Omar greets Lizet at the airport terminal, he asks where her ring is. She tells him... (full context)
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Omar starts driving Lizet towards Little Havana, and she tells him she’s not going to her... (full context)
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...Lizet tells him that she’s home for Easter, he immediately realizes what she’s really saying. Omar tries to speak up and tell Ricky he had nothing to do with Lizet’s trip,... (full context)
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Lizet brings up what she’s seen on the news, but Omar insists he didn’t want to tell her the truth because there was nothing she could... (full context)
Chapter 32
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...Hialeah Lakes—he remembers that she is the “smart girl” who used to go out with Omar. (full context)
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...goes to college in New York. He asks her, point-blank, if she has cheated on Omar in college; he says he can see guilt all over her face. Lizet tries to... (full context)
Chapter 33
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...Lizet, but Lizet is embarrassed to need his help again, and declines. Lizet calls upon Omar to take her back to the airport—when she opens the door, it is clear that... (full context)
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...shares their duplex; Dante and their younger daughter Angelica are both thriving in school, and Omar and his wife are their neighbors. Lizet was not the maid of honor at Leidy’s... (full context)