Marriage is a Private Affair

by

Chinua Achebe

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Lagos Symbol Analysis

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Lagos, Nigeria, the cosmopolitan city in which Nene and Nnaemeka live, represents the modern world at large in contrast with Nnaemeka’s upbringing in a rural Ibo village. Lagos is a large city in Nigeria that is marked by progressive ideas. Those who call Lagos home accept new concepts about marriage and love much quicker than their rural counterparts due to the cosmopolitan atmosphere of the city. Consequently, it is an experimental place, a place to fashion new ideas about marriage, family, and love that sometimes break with older ways of thinking. Thus, Lagos acts as a foil to the more traditional ideas that govern family life, marriage, and community in Okeke’s village.

Lagos also represents a physical and emotional refuge for Nene and Nnaemeka’s relationship, a union which bridges the gap between their disparate cultures. While Nene takes for granted her upbringing in the city, Nnaemeka is often caught between his more traditional upbringing and the opportunity to create a new type of life for himself that Lagos makes possible. Therefore, because the city functions as a place to both question one’s upbringing and create possibilities of living among different ethnicities, customs, and traditions, it becomes a refuge for Nene and Okeke’s marriage.

Lagos Quotes in Marriage is a Private Affair

The Marriage is a Private Affair quotes below all refer to the symbol of Lagos. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Marriage Is A Private Affair Quotes

“You have lived in Lagos all your life, and you know very little about people in remote parts of the country.”

Related Characters: Nnaemeka (speaker), Nene Atang
Related Symbols: Lagos
Page Number: 22
Explanation and Analysis:

“It amazes me that you could be so unfeeling as to send me your wedding picture. I would have sent it back. But on further thought I decided just to cut off your wife and send it back to you because I have nothing to do with her. How I wish that I had nothing to do with you either.”

Related Characters: Okeke / Nnaemeka’s Father (speaker), Nnaemeka, Nene Atang
Related Symbols: Lagos
Page Number: 27
Explanation and Analysis:

“Our two sons, from the day they learnt that they have a grandfather, have insisted on being taken to him. I find it impossible to tell them that you will not see them. I implore you to allow Nnaemeka to bring them home for a short time during his leave next month. I shall remain here in Lagos.”

Related Characters: Nene Atang (speaker), Okeke / Nnaemeka’s Father
Related Symbols: Lagos
Page Number: 29
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Lagos Symbol Timeline in Marriage is a Private Affair

The timeline below shows where the symbol Lagos appears in Marriage is a Private Affair. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Marriage Is A Private Affair
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In Lagos, Nene asks Nnaemeka if he has told his father, Okeke, the exciting news. Nnaemeka reveals... (full context)
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...about the news, but Nnaemeka reminds her that she has spent her entire life in Lagos and for that reason “know[s] very little about people in remote parts of the country.” (full context)
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Later, on his way back to his home in Lagos, Nnaemeka thinks about ways to break the news to his father. He remembers a letter... (full context)
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...goes on to explain that Nene is also a “teacher at a Girl’s School in Lagos.” Okeke reacts angrily to this news. He points out that not only does Nene’s job... (full context)
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...to spread among the people in the rural village even after Nnaemeka has returned to Lagos. More people share their opinion on the issue to commiserate with Okeke. Another person in... (full context)
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Meanwhile in Lagos, Nene and Nnaemeka face prejudice from Ibos there as well. Though the women aren’t openly... (full context)
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...Nnaemeka to bring their children to visit Okeke next month, while she stays behind in Lagos. (full context)