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Ruiz argues that since most people go through life with an internal commentary on everything they are doing imperfectly (delivered by their inner critical voice, the Judge), they also develop another inner voice—which he names the Victim—that receives the Judge’s harsh criticisms and feels ashamed, fearful, and inadequate. The victim fears being judged so much that most people go through life trying to avoid negative judgement, instead of acting based on their own desires. Essentially, the Victim is an internal voice that says “I’m not good enough” and makes people feel disempowered and sorry for themselves. Ruiz’s goal in The Four Agreements is to silence the Victim and replace this voice with self-acceptance, self-love, courage, and positivity.
Victim Quotes in The Four Agreements
The The Four Agreements quotes below are all either spoken by Victim or refer to Victim . For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Chapter 1. Domestication... Quotes
We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We are an autodomesticated animal.
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The Judge decrees, and the Victim suffers the guilt and the punishment. But who says there is justice in this dream?
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Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are.
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Chapter 5. The Fourth Agreement Quotes
I did my best.
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Chapter 6. The Toltec Path to Freedom Quotes
The parasite dreams through your mind and lives its life through your body. It survives on the emotions that come from fear, and thrives on drama and suffering.
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Victim Character Timeline in The Four Agreements
The timeline below shows where the character Victim appears in The Four Agreements. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Chapter 1. Domestication and the Dream of the Planet
...to constantly judge ourselves and others. When we judge ourselves, part of ourselves is a “Victim” who believes we are not good enough, and part of ourselves is a “Judge” who...
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Chapter 5. The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
...each time you fail, you shouldn’t become the Judge (and criticize yourself) or become the Victim (and feel sorry for yourself). Instead, just tell yourself that you broke the agreement but...
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Chapter 6. The Toltec Path to Freedom: Breaking Old Agreements
However, when we become adults, we let the Judge and the Victim take charge. They prevent us from expressing our true nature, and we are no longer...
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...a living. Ruiz thinks that most people don’t even realize that the Judge and the Victim are ruling their lives. The first step to freedom, therefore, is awareness that we are...
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Ruiz compares the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system you are domesticated with to a parasite: it sucks your energy...
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