Awarded seven medals in the war. He returns from Vietnam tortured with guilt about the death of Kiowa and feels responsible. He hides this guilt under the regret that he didn't win the Silver Star. He asks O'Brien to write a story about how great of a soldier he was. He hangs himself in his hometown YMCA after the war.
Norman Bowker Quotes in The Things They Carried
The The Things They Carried quotes below are all either spoken by Norman Bowker or refer to Norman Bowker. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Speaking of Courage
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Courage was not always a matter of yes or no. Sometimes it came in degrees, like the cold; sometimes you were very brave up to a point and then beyond that point you were not so brave. In certain situations you could do incredible things, you could advance toward enemy fire, but in other situations, which were not nearly so bad, you had trouble keeping your eyes open. Sometimes, like that night in the shit field, the difference between courage and cowardice was something small and stupid.
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Tim O'Brien (speaker), Norman Bowker
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Norman did not experience a failure of nerve that night. He did not freeze up or lose the Silver Star for valor. That part of the story is my own.
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Tim O'Brien (speaker), Norman Bowker
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Norman Bowker Character Timeline in The Things They Carried
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The Things They Carried
...floss, and soap. Ted Lavender ("who was scared") carries tranquilizers. Mitchell Sanders carries condoms. Norman Bowker carries a diary. Rat Kiley carries comic books. Kiowa carries a copy of the New...
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...they carry are determined by superstition: Lieutenant Jimmy Cross' pebble, Dave Jensen's rabbit foot, Norman Bowker carries a dead man's thumb that was a gift from Mitchell Sanders. Mitchell Sanders said...
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Spin
O'Brien often only remembers fragments. He recalls Norman Bowker one night lying down, watching the stars, and saying to O'Brien if he could have...
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How to Tell a True War Story
...near a trail leading into the jungle. Mitchell Sanders was playing with his yo-yo, Norman Bowker and Kiowa and Dave Jensen were trying to nap. Except for Rat Kiley and Curt...
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Speaking of Courage
The war has ended and Norman Bowker has returned home. It's the Fourth of July and he's driving his father's Chevy around...
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Most of Norman Bowker's friends have moved away. Sally Kramer was now Sally Gustafson. The third day he was...
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Norman Bowker drives past Slater Park and past Sunset Park. If Sally wasn't married and if his...
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Norman Bowker enjoys the feel inside the car, as if it were a tour bus, except he...
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Bowker spots four workmen setting up the fireworks. Bowker whispers whether they want to hear about...
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Bowker would have told the story of that night with the "exact truth." They took mortar...
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Bowker parks his father's Chevy at the A&W. A slim waitress passed by, but she didn't...
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...with fries over the intercom. The voice responded with "Affirmative, copy clear. No rootie-tootie," which Bowker found out meant root beer and ordered a small one. "Roger-dodger. Mama, one fries, one...
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On the tenth go around the lake, Bowker thinks, "There was nothing to say. He could not talk about it and never would."...
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On Bowker's twelfth circulation, the fireworks start to go off. He parks, gets out of his car,...
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Notes
O'Brien notes that he wrote "Speaking of Courage" in 1975 after Norman Bowker asked him to. Three years after that, Bowker hanged himself in the YMCA locker room...
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Bowker confides in his letter that there's nowhere for his life to go. He says it's...
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At the end of the letter Bowker says that he read O'Brien's first book, which he mostly liked except for the politics....
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O'Brien says that Bowker's letter really affected him. He says that he felt "a certain smugness" after the war...
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...his writing explicitly like therapy, and he still doesn't. But after receiving the letter from Bowker he realized that the stories he was writing were important because it prevented them from...
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Bowker's letter haunts O'Brien. A month later O'Brien decided to write Bowker's story. At the time...
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...his mind. When the story was published in an anthology, he sent a copy to Bowker. Bowker's reply was short and sour, saying it wasn't "terrible" but he asked where the...
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O'Brien says that it has been a decade since Bowker's death at the time of re-writing "Speaking of Courage." He hopes that it "makes good...
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In the Field
The search was slow going. Azar, Norman Bowker, and Mitchell Sanders searched along the edge of the field. Azar said Kiowa would find...
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...of moccasins and a copy of the New Testament. Sanders says Kiowa must be close. Bowker says they should tell Lieutenant Jimmy Cross, but Sanders refuses, claiming it's Cross' fault Kiowa...
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Azar, Norman Bowker, and Mitchell Sanders are across the field still searching. It's almost noon when Bowker finds...
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Azar sits next to Bowker and says he doesn't mean anything bad by the jokes he tells. Azar feels like...
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The Ghost Soldiers
...Alpha Company came to the HQ. Mitchell Sanders, Azar, Henry Dobbins, Dave Jensen, and Norman Bowker all shook O'Brien's hand and he drove them to their quarters. They partied until it...
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Bowker continues with the story of Morty Phillips. Near My Khe on a scorching day, everyone...
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Night Life
...Jensen took vitamins high in carotene, Lt. Jimmy Cross took NoDoz, Henry Dobbins and Norman Bowker attached a safety wire between their two belts.
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