This Side of Paradise
by F. Scott Fitzgerald
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Love and Sexuality Theme Analysis

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Amory is prone to falling deeply in love and feeling passionately attracted to women. Indeed, he is enamored with four women over the course of the novel: Isabelle Borgé, Clara Page, Rosalind Connage, and Eleanor Savage. Youth sexuality and romance are increasingly permitted in Amory’s surrounding cultural landscape, though they are still considered inappropriate by elders. The novel suggests that despite the relative sexual freedom that Amory, his friends, and his lovers enjoy, love and sexuality in and of themselves aren’t capable of providing meaning, purpose, or comfort.

Amory comes to realize throughout the novel that love and sexuality are not exempt from any of the world’s social problems. When Rosalind leaves him because he has no money, he learns that love is governed by the same rules of class hierarchy that often made him feel inferior at Princeton. What’s more, Eleanor articulates the burdens that love, sexuality, and marriage place on women in this era: even though she is highly intelligent, she is destined to marriage, which will inevitably be to an upper-class man who is her intellectual inferior. For women, therefore, love is like a cage confining them in a fixed and rather unrewarding social position. And for both men and women, love essentially becomes little more than a way to achieve class mobility. Sexuality is also a tool with which the government can punish citizens, such as when the detectives in Atlantic City try to catch Alec Connage having sex with a woman who is not his wife. By the end of the novel, Amory realizes that he has been chasing love and sex for the wrong reasons: instead of seeking women for the personal fulfillment that their love and companionship could bring him, he was chasing them for their superficial beauty. Amory eventually realizes that his quest for beauty has corrupted rather than improved him, turning him away from his ideals and further ensnaring him in the restrictive social norms he has repeatedly tried to overcome throughout his life. The novel is, therefore, quite pessimistic about love and sexuality, emphasizing the virtues of self-sufficiency and individual personhood.

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Love and Sexuality Quotes in This Side of Paradise

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Book 1, Chapter 2: Spires and Gargoyles Quotes

“He knows you’re—you’re considered beautiful and all that”—she paused—“and I guess he knows you’ve been kissed.”

At this Isabelle’s little fist had clinched suddenly under the fur robe. She was accustomed to be thus followed by her desperate past, and it never failed to rouse in her the same feeling of resentment; yet—in a strange town it was an advantageous reputation. She was a “Speed,” was she? Well—let them find out.

Related Characters: Sally Weatherby (speaker), Isabelle Borgé
Page Number and Citation: 57
Explanation and Analysis:
In this quote, Sally Weatherby, Amory’s childhood friend, is speaking to her cousin Isabelle about what she (Sally) has told Amory about her (Isabelle). This quote demonstrates how this new generation’s attitudes about sexuality have drastically diverged from those of their parents: it is newly possible for young men and women to have relationships not supervised by adults, and they are free to kiss and express their affection for each other. The term “Speed” is a new concept made possible by these new freedoms: it refers to someone who moves quickly in romantic relationships, perhaps improperly so. It might be Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligen

Book 1, Chapter 3: The Egotist Considers Quotes

He became aware that he had not an ounce of real affection for Isabelle, but her coldness piqued him. He wanted to kiss her, kiss her a lot, because then he knew he could leave in the morning and not care. On the contrary, if he didn’t kiss her, it would worry him… It would interfere vaguely with his idea of himself as a conqueror.

Related Characters: Amory Blaine, Isabelle Borgé
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Page Number and Citation: 84
Explanation and Analysis:
Amory has this realization about his true feelings for Isabelle right after they kiss for the first time at her family’s home in Long Island. This quote demonstrates Amory’s troubled and even misogynistic attitude towards women and romantic relationships. It also illustrates Amory’s cruelty, selfishness, and callousness toward others in his youth. Amory’s desire to kiss Isabelle to feel like a “conqueror” is rooted in misogynistic ideas about sexual relationships as a form of violence and domination. In particular, his idea that achieving this form of domination will free him from emotional attachment suggests why Amory struggles to find fulfilling, Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta

Book 1, Chapter 4: Narcissus Off Duty Quotes

She was immemorial…. Amory wasn’t good enough for Clara, Clara of ripply golden hair, but then no man was. Her goodness was above the prosy morals of the husband-seeker, apart from the dull literature of female virtue.

Related Characters: Eleanor Savage, Isabelle Borgé, Rosalind Connage, Amory Blaine, Clara Page
Page Number and Citation: 126
Explanation and Analysis:
Amory’s relationship with and attitude toward Clara is notably distinct from his other romantic relationships in the novel. Amory sees some of himself in all of his other lovers. In contrast, Amory puts Clara on a pedestal and is drawn to her because he sees her as his moral superior. Clara makes Amory want to be less haughty and self-interested. Unlike with Amory’s other lovers (whom Amory feels confident in his ability to conquer), Amory does not effortlessly charm Clara, instead seeing himself as unworthy of her. While Amory demonstrates his admiration for Clara, this quote still reflects the same Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit neque odi

Book 2, Chapter 1: The Débutante Quotes

All life was transmitted into terms of their love, all experience, all desires, all ambitions, were nullified—their senses of humor crawled into corners to sleep; their former love affairs seemed faintly laughable and scarcely regretted juvenalia. For the second time in his life Amory had a complete bouleversement and was hurrying into line with his generation.

Related Characters: Amory Blaine, Rosalind Connage
Page Number and Citation: 171
Explanation and Analysis:
This quote demonstrates the emotional significance of Amory and Rosalind’s love affair, and it is one of the few moments in the novel when Amory is optimistic and happy about love. In fact, it is the intensity and all-consuming nature of his love of Rosalind described here that leads Amory to be so pessimistic about love later in the novel. That feelings as intimate as theirs could later be corrupted by the forces of class and social conformity provokes a dramatic reaction in Amory, leading him to dismiss love as a corrupting force. What the narrator identifies as Amory’s “bouleversement” Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus

ROSALIND: Amory, I’m yours—you know it. There have been times in the last month I’d have been completely yours if you’d said so. But I can’t marry you and ruin both our lives. (…) I can’t Amory, I can’t be shut away from the trees and flowers, cooped up in a little flat, waiting for you. You’d hate me in a narrow atmosphere. I’d make you hate me.

Related Characters: Rosalind Connage (speaker), Amory Blaine, Dawson Ryder
Page Number and Citation: 179
Explanation and Analysis:
Here, Rosalind is articulating her reasons for ending her engagement to Amory and implying her future engagement to his wealthy rival, Dawson Ryder. The idea that their marriage would “ruin both [their] lives” reflects the intense pressures of class in modern society. These pressures revolved around the idea that genuine love was not enough to make a good marriage. Instead, most people believed that money and stability were necessary in order to make a relationship sustainable, regardless of whether or not spouses were in love. The fact that Rosalind feels she would be transformed for the worse by poverty further Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nos

Book 2, Chapter 2: Experiments in Convalescence Quotes

“ ‘S a mental was’e,’ he insisted with his owl-like wisdom. “Two years my life spent inalleshual vacuity. Los’ idealism, got be physcal anmal,” he shook his fist expressively at Old King Cole, “got be Prussian ‘bout ev’thing, women ‘specially. Use’ be straight ‘bout women college. Now don’givadam. (…) Seek pleasure where find it for to-morrow die. ‘At’s philosophy for me now on.”

Related Characters: Amory Blaine (speaker), Rosalind Connage
Page Number and Citation: 183
Explanation and Analysis:
This quote appears soon after the end of Amory and Rosalind’s breakup, when Amory is suppressing his feelings by drinking excessively. Despite his state of impairment, Amory is articulating a remarkably coherent assessment of the effects that the war had on him (and, by extension, his generation). He describes how the war destroyed his sense of “idealism,” part of the innocence he had in his youth. Further, he describes how the war gave him a hedonistic mentality, as he now tries to “seek pleasure” in the short term, believing that he might die the next day. Though Amory’s assessment of Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam offici

Amory had loved Rosalind as he would never love another living person. She had taken the first flush of his youth and brought from his unplumbed depths tenderness that had surprised him, gentleness and unselfishness that he had never given to another creature. He had later love-affairs, but of a different sort: in those he went back to that, perhaps, more typical frame of mind, in which the girl became the mirror of a mood in him.

Related Characters: Amory Blaine, Rosalind Connage, Clara Page, Eleanor Savage
Page Number and Citation: 191-2
Explanation and Analysis:
This quote further demonstrates the intensity of Amory’s love for Rosalind, and therefore the degree to which the pain of its dissolution traumatized Amory and made it more difficult for him to have romantic relationships in the future. Despite the fact that both Amory and Rosalind are deeply selfish people, the intensity of their love does make him better and inspires him to be unselfish and tender in a way that even his love for Clara, who is a more moral person, did not. This quote therefore demonstrates the power of love, a power so strong that it scared Amory Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates.

Book 2, Chapter 3: Young Irony Quotes

Eleanor was, say, the last time that evil crept close to Amory under the mask of beauty.

Related Characters: Eleanor Savage, Amory Blaine, Rosalind Connage, Clara Page, Isabelle Borgé
Page Number and Citation: 204
Explanation and Analysis:
The idea expressed in this quote, that the temptations of romantic love are a form of evil, is one of Amory’s major realizations by the end of the novel that leads him to his pessimistic view of love and sexuality. In earlier relationships with Isabelle, Clara, and Rosalind, Amory saw the exciting possibilities of being in love. But after the end of his relationship with Rosalind, Amory comes to see love as fundamentally corrupted and dangerous, leading him away from his quest for individual fulfillment and self-knowledge. Such a belief perhaps reflects the fact that, aside from Clara, Amory is Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo

“Rotten, rotten old world,” broke out Eleanor suddenly, “and the wretchedest thing of all is me—oh, why am I a girl? (…) Here I am with the brains to do everything, yet tied to the sinking ship of future matrimony.”

Related Characters: Eleanor Savage (speaker), Amory Blaine, Rosalind Connage, Dawson Ryder
Page Number and Citation: 218
Explanation and Analysis:
On their last night together, Eleanor points out to Amory the double standards that govern the norms of relationships between men and women. To Eleanor, marriage seems like a dead end or, in her words, a “sinking ship”: that is, something that is destined to ruin her but that she is powerless to stop or avoid. Eleanor implies here that she would rather not get married but that that option is not available to a woman of her class status. In the same way that Rosalind previously revealed to Amory how love can be corrupted by money (showing him this Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum

Book 2, Chapter 5: The Egotist Becomes a Personage Quotes

Life opened up in one of its amazing bursts of radiance and Amory suddenly and permanently rejected an old epigram that had been playing listlessly in his mind: “Very few things matter and nothing matters very much.”

On the contrary, Amory felt an immense desire to give people a sense of security.

Related Characters: Amory Blaine, Monsignor Darcy, Stephen Blaine
Page Number and Citation: 245
Explanation and Analysis:
This passage demonstrates Amory’s significant character development over the course of the novel, as well as his newfound ability to relinquish some of his selfishness and indifference to others. Amory has this realization after Monsignor Darcy’s funeral near the end of the novel. This internal transformation also suggests the importance of Monsignor Darcy’s mentorship for Amory. In contrast to the death of Amory’s father, which did not stir much emotion in Amory, Monsignor Darcy’s death  and his memory inspire Amory to be a better man. Monsignor Darcy’s influence also enables Amory’s to break free from the aimlessness that is common Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expe