When Breath Becomes Air
by Paul Kalanithi

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Paul relays his and others’ struggles with confronting premature death. While facing mortality is a one-time occurrence for most patients, doctors encounter death constantly. Beyond providing physical care for their patients, Paul argues that two of the most crucial responsibilities of a doctor lie in having mental fortitude and being able to provide emotional support. These two types of strength allow doctors to alleviate suffering and distress, even when people are facing the inevitability of death.

When doctors reach the limits of the physical care they can provide, Paul feels that it is their duty to also provide emotional support. For example, Paul listens in as a pediatric neurosurgeon explains to a mother that her child has a large brain tumor. The doctor proceeds gently, acknowledging the tragedy of the situation, and counselling her on the possible operations and outcomes for her son. With this emotional comfort, the mother is able to make decisions about her son’s medical care rather than succumbing to despair. One of Paul’s own patients is a woman who experiences a seizure. A scan shows that she has a benign brain tumor pressing on her right frontal lobe, and Paul knows that an operation would have minimal risks and almost certainly eliminate her seizures. However, when he realizes that she is terrified of the idea of brain surgery, he gathers her family to calmly talk through the options rather than detailing all of the possible risks and complications. With his informed guidance, she chooses surgery, which goes successfully. Thus, in providing his patient with a network of support including himself, Paul ensures that she lives a healthier and longer life.

Another example Paul gives of his own patients is a woman named Mrs. Lee. He realizes that her local ER had sent her to him so that he would break the news to her that she had brain cancer. Paul refuses to dodge questions and is both direct and caring with her, taking her step by step through surgery, and then through what chemotherapy and radiation treatment will entail. He understands that in cases like this, the first conversation with a neurosurgeon will forever color how a patient chooses to proceed, and that “when there’s no place for the scalpel, words are the surgeon’s only tool.” Emotional support, then, can be just almost as vital as medical care to a dying person. Paul’s own oncologist, Emma, provides mental support for him, as well. Initially, Paul tries to do as much research as he can and become an expert in his own treatment. Emma allows him to do this, but when his first treatment eventually becomes unsuccessful, she tells him that he can just be the patient, and that she can be solely responsible for his care. Paul is shocked, but he is eventually grateful to be relieved of the burden of being his own doctor, allowing him to put his energy back into recovering.

Yet at the same time, doctors also struggle with the human frailty of their patients, and they require mental and emotional fortitude in order to continue to work in a field in which the patients they treat often die. Patients quickly become more than paperwork, such as in an early example that Paul gives about his wife Lucy’s experience. While in medical school, Lucy studies EKGs and identifies one example that shows a fatal arrhythmia. She begins to cry as she realizes that wherever the example had come from, the patient had not survived. In order to perform even everyday tasks, doctors need to develop an ability to cope with fear and death. Paul describes a med school professor, Shep Nuland, who wrote about being a young medical student and cutting open a patient whose heart had stopped in order to squeeze the life back into the person. Though he is ultimately unsuccessful and Nuland’s patient dies, Paul calls his actions heroic. Despite the gruesomeness of the situation, Nuland is willing to go above and beyond what is normally expected of medical students in order to save his patients.

One of Paul’s doctor friends, Jeff, fails to keep up this emotional strength in the course of dealing constantly with death in his job. During residency, one of Jeff’s patients has a particularly difficult complication and dies. Jeff commits suicide that night, unable to bear the responsibility for the deaths of others. Paul experiences his own struggle in maintaining resilience in the face of constant death around him. He describes how in a single day, he had failed to save a child who had been shot in the head for wearing the wrong color shoes, and then had to explain to a mother that her newborn child, who was born without a brain, would not live much longer. Even though these experiences bring him to tears, Paul understands that the work he does is important.

Initially, Paul feels somewhat inured to the death around him, trying to protect himself from his work’s tragedies. Along the path of this career, however, Paul becomes impressed by those around him who are able to withstand the grief and provide emotional comfort for their patients, viewing these qualities as being equally important as a surgeon’s technical skills. Even though his failures are emotionally taxing and fighting against death is a losing battle, Paul understands that it is vital to keep striving for his patients.

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Human Mortality, Strength, and Support Quotes in When Breath Becomes Air

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Part 1 Quotes

When there’s no place for the scalpel, words are the surgeon’s only tool.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Jeff
Related Symbols: Scalpel
Page Number and Citation: 87
Explanation and Analysis:
Paul makes this statement after a lengthy section in which he worries that being so close to death has only inured him to it. Upon hearing of a friend’s death in a car accident, Paul realizes that he would want her doctor to treat her with compassion and respect. This realization is a turning point for Paul, as he begins to value not just taking care of his patients physically (with the scalpel), but also emotionally and mentally (with words). In a way, this circles back to what drew Paul to neurosurgery in the first place when he heard a Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum volup

Being with patients in these moments certainly had its emotional cost, but it also had its rewards. I don't think I ever spent a minute of any day wondering why I did this work, or whether it was worth it.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Jeff
Page Number and Citation: 97-98
Explanation and Analysis:
After Paul realizes how desensitized he has become to his patients’ suffering, he resolves to be as empathetic as possible. Though the price of this compassion is high, such as when he and Jeff commiserate about the tragedies they have seen in their operating rooms (Paul witnessed a child shot in the head for wearing the wrong shoes), Paul is able to steel himself against these tragedies in order to support his patients more fully. In supporting them, Paul feels that the work he is doing is truly meaningful, and this reinforces the idea that empathy is just as crucial Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit

Good intentions were not enough, not when so much depended on my skills, when the difference between tragedy and triumph was defined by one or two millimeters.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Matthew
Related Symbols: Scalpel
Page Number and Citation: 105
Explanation and Analysis:
In his final year in residency, Paul describes how he had assumed full responsibility for his patients, and that means that he also must take full responsibility for any mistakes made. He describes various cases in which patients are drastically affected by one or two millimeters of damage, which demonstrates the relationship between the physical structures of the brain and identity. This relationship is one of the reasons that Paul had been drawn to neurosurgery in the first place, as the intersection of biology and philosophy has always been his passion. However, many of Paul’s cases represent how science and Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possi

The secret is to know that the deck is stacked […] and yet still struggle to win for your patients. You can’t ever reach perfection, but you can believe in an asymptote toward which you are ceaselessly striving.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Jeff
Page Number and Citation: 115
Explanation and Analysis:
At the end of Paul’s residency, Paul is told that his friend Jeff had committed suicide because one of his patients, who had a particularly difficult complication, had died. Paul knows that incidents like this place a lot of responsibility on physicians’ shoulders, and he relays what he had learned in his time as a doctor. Though it requires mental fortitude on the doctor’s part, and though it might ultimately be a fruitless goal, it is always valuable to strive for one’s patients. This is certainly true of Paul’s time as a surgeon, as he sometimes makes mistakes, but he Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium es

Part 2 Quotes

The angst of facing mortality has no remedy in probability.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Emma Hayward
Page Number and Citation: 135
Explanation and Analysis:
When Paul is diagnosed with cancer, his oncologist Emma refuses to give him detailed statistics about how likely it is that he will survive. Earlier in the memoir, Paul himself had said that it is better to be accurate than precise when it comes to telling patients how long they will live, and that it is important for doctors to leave room for both nuance and hope in their language in order to support their patients as best they can. Even though he is initially frustrated with Emma for denying him this information, Paul comes to understand that it is Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error.

I got out of bed and took a step forward, repeating the phrase over and over: “I can’t go on. I’ll go on.”

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker)
Page Number and Citation: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
When Paul’s cancer becomes stable, Paul returns to literature to try to make sense of his mortality. He reads works by many different authors to add to his knowledge of death—everything from philosophy, to memoirs by other cancer survivors. When Paul is struck by immense pain one morning, he uses these words as a mantra, which are drawn from Samuel Beckett’s The Unnamable. Thus, literature serves a dual purpose as he works through his treatment. It not only gives him a framework for understanding his impending death by reading the works of others, but it also provides him with strength Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque

The physician’s duty is not to stave off death or return patients to their old lives, but to take into our arms a patient and family whose lives have disintegrated and work until they can stand back up and face, and make sense of, their own existence.

Related Characters: Paul Kalanithi (speaker), Emma Hayward
Page Number and Citation: 166
Explanation and Analysis:
As Paul draws near the end of his residency, his cancer remains stable and he begins to receive job offers. One of those jobs would take him to Wisconsin, but Paul worries that if he were to relapse, he would be away from his family as well as from his oncologist, Emma. Emma has earned his deep trust and respect, for the reasons he explains here. Not only has she taken care of him physically, but she has also taken care of him mentally. This is one of the characteristics that Paul views as crucial to being a good physician, Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum volupta

Epilogue Quotes

This book carries the urgency of racing against time, of having important things to say. Paul confronted death—examined it, wrestled with it, accepted it—as a physician and a patient. He wanted to help people understand death and face their mortality.

Related Characters: Lucy Kalanithi (speaker), Paul Kalanithi
Page Number and Citation: 215
Explanation and Analysis:
In the epilogue, Lucy emphasizes how much of Paul’s last months he spent working on his book and why he wanted it published. The book represented many things to Paul; it was an example of a goal he had had before he was diagnosed that he could still accomplish after; it was a way to carry on his legacy in the future and make an impact on others after his death; but perhaps most importantly, it was a way for Paul to continue the part of his work as a neurosurgeon that he found most fulfilling through offering existential understanding. Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut a

Caring for our daughter, nurturing relationships with family, publishing this book, pursuing meaningful work, visiting Paul’s grave, grieving and honoring him, persisting…my love goes on—lives on—in a way I’d never expected.

Related Characters: Lucy Kalanithi (speaker), Paul Kalanithi, Cady Kalanithi
Page Number and Citation: 224
Explanation and Analysis:
At the very end of the memoir, Lucy explains how she did not lose her love for Paul even after his death. Each of the ideas she touches on here represents a way that Paul strove to make his life meaningful, and which she takes on after his passing. Even though Paul was able to identify and work towards several different values towards the end of his life (forging a legacy, raising a daughter, continuing to perform neurosurgery while he still could), perhaps the most important is that of family. Family gave Paul strength, hope, and meaning in his remaining Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque erro