Call Me By Your Name

by

André Aciman

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Oliver is a twenty-four-year-old professor at Columbia University who travels to the Italian town of B. to live for six weeks with Elio’s family with the goal of finishing a book project. Oliver is a quick-witted intellectual whose charm never fails to win people over, even when his “Americanisms” make him seem brusque and indifferent. A master of insinuation, Oliver nearly drives Elio crazy with his ability to act casually while saying something fraught with meaning. This kind of conversational ambiguity surfaces frequently in their interactions, as he hints at his romantic interest in the boy without fully revealing his feelings. While he and Elio spend the first weeks of his stay in Italy flirting, Oliver goes out drinking with locals and even strikes up a relationship with Chiara, who is Elio’s age. When he’s not lounging on the edge of the pool with his manuscript, chatting with Elio, or sneaking around with Chiara, Oliver spends time at the beach with a ten-year-old girl named Vimini, who has leukemia and who has won over his affection. When Elio finally reveals his romantic interest, Oliver tries to shut down any possibility of a relationship by saying that he “knows” himself, suggesting that they can’t let anything happen between them because then he won’t be able to stop himself from pursuing something more. Nonetheless, he eventually gives in and begins a sexual relationship with Elio—during this time, he’s cautious about pushing Elio too far but also doesn’t keep himself from pursuing his sexual desires, even when Elio seems hesitant. After his stay in Italy, he gets married to a woman and has children, but never manages to forget Elio, whom he thinks of as his Cor cordium—“heart of hearts.”

Oliver Quotes in Call Me By Your Name

The Call Me By Your Name quotes below are all either spoken by Oliver or refer to Oliver. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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). Note: all page numbers and citation info for the quotes below refer to the Picador edition of Call Me By Your Name published in 2007.
Part 1: If Not Later, When? Quotes

A few hours later, when I remembered that he had just finished writing a book on Heraclitus and that “reading” was probably not an insignificant part of his life, I realized that I needed to perform some clever backpedaling and let him know that my real interests lay right alongside his. What unsettled me, though, was not the fancy footwork needed to redeem myself. It was the unwelcome misgivings with which it finally dawned on me, both then and during our casual conversation by the train tracks, that I had all along, without seeming to, without even admitting it, already been trying—and failing—to win him over.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 8
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Today, the pain, the stoking, the thrill of someone new, the promise of so much bliss hovering a fingertip away, the fumbling around people I might misread and don’t want to lose and must second-guess at every turn, the desperate cunning I bring to everyone I want and crave to be wanted by, the screens I put up as though between me and the world there were not just one but layers of rice-paper sliding doors, the urge to scramble and unscramble what was never really coded in the first place—all these started the summer Oliver came into our house. They are embossed on every song that was a hit that summer, in every novel I read during and after his stay, on anything from the smell of rosemary on hot days to the frantic rattle of the cicadas in the afternoon—smells and sounds I’d grown up with and known every year of my life until then but that had suddenly turned on me and acquired an inflection forever colored by the events of that summer.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 10
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I knew exactly what phrase in the piece must have stirred him the first time, and each time I played it, I was sending it to him as a little gift, because it was really dedicated to him, as a token of something very beautiful in me that would take no genius to figure out and that urged me to throw in an extended cadenza. Just for him.

We were—and he must have recognized the signs long before I did—flirting.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 13
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Perhaps, in this, as with everything else, because I didn’t know how to speak in code, I didn’t know how to speak at all. I felt like a deaf and dumb person who can’t even use sign language. I stammered all manner of things so as not to speak my mind. That was the extent of my code. So long as I had breath to put words in my mouth, I could more or less carry it off. Otherwise, the silence between us would probably give me away—which was why anything, even the most spluttered nonsense, was preferable to silence. Silence would expose me. But what was certain to expose me even more was my struggle to overcome it in front of others.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 17
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I saw his star almost immediately during his first day with us. And from that moment on I knew that what mystified me and made me want to seek out his friendship, without ever hoping to find ways to dislike him, was larger than anything either of us could ever want from the other, larger and therefore better than his soul, my body, or earth itself. Staring at his neck with its star and telltale amulet was like staring at something timeless, ancestral, immortal in me, in him, in both of us, begging to be rekindled and brought back from its millenary sleep.

What baffled me was that he didn’t seem to care or notice that I wore one too. Just as he probably didn’t care or notice each time my eyes wandered along his bathing suit and tried to make out the contour of what made us brothers in the desert.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Related Symbols: The Star of David Necklace
Page Number: 19
Explanation and Analysis:

What never crossed my mind was that someone else who lived under our roof, who played cards with my mother, ate breakfast and supper at our table, recited the Hebrew blessing on Fridays for the sheer fun of it, slept in one of our beds, used our towels, shared our friends, watched TV with us on rainy days when we sat in the living room with a blanket around us because it got cold and we felt so snug being all together as we listened to the rain patter against the windows—that someone else in my immediate world might like what I liked, want what I wanted, be who I was. It would never have entered my mind because I was still under the illusion that, barring what I’d read in books, inferred from rumors, and overheard in bawdy talk all over, no one my age had ever wanted to be both man and woman—with men and women.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 24
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At my age, [Chiara’s] body was more than ready for him. More than mine? I wondered. She was after him, that much was clear, while all I really wanted was one night with him, just one night—one hour, even—if only to determine whether I wanted him for another night after that. What I didn’t realize was that wanting to test desire is nothing more than a ruse to get what we want without admitting that we want it.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver, Chiara
Page Number: 42
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The fear never went away. I woke up to it, watched it turn to joy when I heard him shower in the morning and knew he’d be downstairs with us for breakfast, only to watch it curdle when, rather than have coffee, he would dash through the house and right away set to work in the garden. By noon, the agony of waiting to hear him say anything to me was more than I could bear. I knew that the sofa awaited me in an hour or so. It made me hate myself for feeling so hapless, so thoroughly invisible, so smitten, so callow.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 59
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Part 2: Monet’s Berm Quotes

He stared me right in the face, as though he liked my face and wished to study it and to linger on it, then he touched my nether lip with his finger and let it travel left and right and right and left again and again as I lay there, watching him smile in a way that made me fear anything might happen now and there’d be no turning back, that this was his way of asking, and here was my chance to say no or to say something and play for time, so that I might still debate the matter with myself, now that it had reached this point—except that I didn’t have any time left, because he brought his lips to my mouth, a warm, conciliatory, I’ll-meet-you-halfway-but-no-further kiss till he realized how famished mine was.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 80
Explanation and Analysis:

And yet, he had shown me that what I wanted could be given and taken so naturally that one wonders why it needed such hand-wringing torment and shame, seeing it was no more complicated a gesture than, say, buying a pack of cigarettes, or passing a reefer, or stopping by one of the girls behind the piazzetta late at night and, having settled on a price, going upstairs for a few minutes.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 92
Explanation and Analysis:

How I admired people who talked about their vices as though they were distant relatives they’d learned to put up with because they couldn’t quite disown them. That and other things. I don’t care to remember—like I know myself—hinted at a realm of human experience only others had access to, not I. How I wished I could say such a thing one day—that I didn’t care to remember what I’d done at night in full morning glory. I wondered what were the other things that necessitated taking a shower. Did you take a shower to perk yourself up because your system wouldn’t hold up otherwise? Or did you shower to forget, to wash away all traces of last night’s smut and degradation?

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver, Elio’s Father (Mr. Pearlman)
Page Number: 98
Explanation and Analysis:

“Do I like you, Oliver? I worship you.” There, I’d said it. I wanted the word to startle him and to come like a slap in the face so that it might be instantly followed with the most languorous caresses. What’s liking when we’re talking about worshipping? But I also wanted my verb to carry the persuasive knockout punch with which, not the person who has a crush on us, but their closest friend, takes us aside and says, Look, I think you ought to know, so-and-so worships you. “To worship” seemed to say more than anyone might dare say under the circumstances; but it was the safest, and ultimately murkiest, thing I could come up with. I gave myself credit for getting the truth off my chest, all the while finding a loophole for immediate retreat in case I’d ventured too far.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 103
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Did I want this, now that something was being offered? And was it in fact being offered? And if I wanted or didn’t want it, how would I live out the day till midnight? It was barely ten in the morning: fourteen hours to go . . . The last time I had waited so long for something was for my report card. Or on the Saturday two years ago when a girl had promised we’d meet at the movies and I wasn’t sure she hadn’t forgotten. Half a day watching my entire life being put on hold. How I hated waiting and depending on the whim of others.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 120
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And yet another part of me knew that if he showed up tonight and I disliked the start of whatever was in store for me, I’d still go through with it, go with it all the way, because better to find out once and for all than to spend the rest of the summer, or my life perhaps, arguing with my body.

I’d make a decision in cold blood. And if he asked, I’d tell him. I’m not sure I want to go ahead with this, but I need to know, and better with you than anyone else. I want to know your body, I want to know how you feel, I want to know you, and through you, me.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 124
Explanation and Analysis:

No, I didn’t hate it at all. But what I felt was worse than hate. I didn’t want to remember, didn’t want to think about it. Just put it away. It had never happened. I had tried it and it didn’t work for me, now I wanted my money back, roll back the film, take me back to that moment when I’m almost stepping out onto the balcony barefoot, I’ll go no farther, I’ll sit and stew and never know—better to argue with my body than feel what I was feeling now.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 136
Explanation and Analysis:

It never occurred to me, as I was going through the heady motions of feeling over and done with him and even a tad disappointed that I had so easily recovered after a spell of so many weeks, that this desire to sit and discuss Haydn in so unusually relaxed a manner as we were doing right now was my most vulnerable spot, that if desire had to resurface, it could just as easily sneak in through this very gate, which I’d always assumed the safest, as through the sight of his near-naked body by the swimming pool.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 138
Explanation and Analysis:

I saw him pedal down the cypress lane, still wearing my trunks. No one had ever worn my clothes. Perhaps the physical and the metaphorical meanings are clumsy ways of understanding what happens when two beings need, not just to be close together, but to become so totally ductile that each becomes the other. To be who I am because of you. To be who he was because of me. To be in his mouth while he was in mine and no longer know whose it was, his cock or mine, that was in my mouth. He was my secret conduit to myself—like a catalyst that allows us to become who we are […].

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 142
Explanation and Analysis:

I don’t know what happened to me at that moment as I kept staring at him, but suddenly I had a fierce urge to cry. And rather than fight it, as with orgasm, I simply let myself go, if only to show him something equally private about me as well. I reached for him and muffled my sobs against his shoulder. I was crying because no stranger had ever been so kind or gone so far for me, even Anchise, who had cut open my foot once and sucked and spat out and sucked and spat out the scorpion’s venom. I was crying because I’d never known so much gratitude and there was no other way to show it. And I was crying for the evil thoughts I’d nursed against him this morning. And for last night as well, because, for better or worse, I’d never be able to undo it, and now was as good a time as any to show him that he was right, that this wasn’t easy, that fun and games had a way of skidding off course and that if we had rushed into things it was too late to step back from them now— crying because something was happening, and I had no idea what it was.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver, Anchise
Related Symbols: The Peach
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:

This was a time when I intentionally failed to drop bread crumbs for my return journey; instead, I ate them. He could turn out to be a total creep; he could change me or ruin me forever, while time and gossip might ultimately disembowel everything we shared and trim the whole thing down till nothing but fish bones remained. I might miss this day, or I might do far better, but I’d always know that on those afternoons in my bedroom I had held my moment.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 162
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Part 3: The San Clemente Syndrome Quotes

Perhaps what I liked far more was the evening. Everything about it thrilled me. Every glance that crossed my own came like a compliment, or like an asking and a promise that simply lingered in midair between me and the world around me. I was electrified—by the chaffing, the irony, the glances, the smiles that seemed pleased I existed, by the buoyant air in the shop that graced everything […]

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 183
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Part 4: Ghost Spots Quotes

“You’re too smart not to know how rare, how special, what you two had was.”

“Oliver was Oliver,” I said, as if that summed things up.

“Parce que c’était lui, parce que c’était moi,” my father added, quoting Montaigne’s all-encompassing explanation for his friendship with Etienne de la Boétie.

I was thinking, instead, of Emily Brontë’s words: because “he’s more myself than I am.”

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Elio’s Father (Mr. Pearlman) (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 223
Explanation and Analysis:

In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!

Related Characters: Elio’s Father (Mr. Pearlman) (speaker), Elio, Oliver
Page Number: 224
Explanation and Analysis:

The very possibility of meeting his family suddenly alarmed me— too real, too sudden, too in-my-face, not rehearsed enough. Over the years I’d lodged him in the permanent past, my pluperfect lover, put him on ice, stuffed him with memories and moth balls like a hunted ornament confabulating with the ghost of all my evenings. I’d dust him off from time to time and then put him back on the mantelpiece. He no longer belonged to earth or to life. All I was likely to discover at this point wasn’t just how distant were the paths we’d taken, it was the measure of loss that was going to strike me— a loss I didn’t mind thinking about in abstract terms but which would hurt when stared at in the face, the way nostalgia hurts long after we’ve stopped thinking of things we’ve lost and may never have cared for.

Related Characters: Elio (speaker), Oliver
Page Number: 233
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Oliver Character Timeline in Call Me By Your Name

The timeline below shows where the character Oliver appears in Call Me By Your Name. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Part 1: If Not Later, When?
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...person use the word “later” to say goodbye. That is, he’s never heard this until Oliver comes to stay with his family in their summer home in the Italian village of... (full context)
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One afternoon not long after Oliver arrives, Elio notices how soft and pale this man’s skin is on his palms, neck,... (full context)
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As they bike to the bank so that Oliver can open an account, Oliver asks Elio what there is to do in B. during... (full context)
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Elio tells Oliver he plays tennis, swims, goes out at night, jogs, transcribes music, and reads. He purposefully... (full context)
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On the way back from the bank, Elio offers to take Oliver to San Giacomo so they can “walk up to the very top of the belfry,”... (full context)
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In retrospect, Elio wonders how he possibly could not have recognized his attraction to Oliver right from the start. “I know desire when I see it,” he writes, “and yet,... (full context)
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In the aftermath of Oliver’s “icy glare,” Elio feels stupid for having “fallen for the skin of his hands, his... (full context)
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Without reason or warning, the silence breaks three days later when Oliver asks Elio if he wants to go swimming. Speaking in the present, Elio understands that... (full context)
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While playing guitar one day, Elio senses Oliver staring at him. When he looks up, he’s once more met with the “icy glare.”... (full context)
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...long after this interaction, Elio begins to admit to himself that he’d do anything for Oliver because he feels strongly for him. Then, one afternoon, he finds himself home alone with... (full context)
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When Oliver finally does walk into Elio’s bedroom, he asks why he isn’t with the others at... (full context)
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Elio also wishes he and Oliver could talk about the other night, when Oliver came into his room and lay down... (full context)
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While playing tennis the next day, Oliver throws his arm around Elio during a break and massages his shoulder. Although this is... (full context)
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After the incident on the tennis court, Elio wonders why he’s so afraid to show Oliver how much he affects him. “Because I was afraid of what might happen then?” he... (full context)
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Elio is overcome by Oliver and his billowy blue shirt and the scent of his skin. More than anything, though,... (full context)
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On the day Oliver walks into Elio’s room and asks why he didn’t go to the beach with the... (full context)
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In retrospect, Elio understands that he should have embraced Oliver’s attitude of self-acceptance and simply “shrugged” away any worries about Oliver noticing his damp crotch—“So... (full context)
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Every night, Elio lies in bed yearning for Oliver to enter his room. During the day, he sits at a table by the pool... (full context)
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Sometimes while lying in the orle of paradise—as he calls his poolside perch—Oliver repeats the things Elio says as a response to his questions. When, for example, he... (full context)
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...she has developed into a strikingly attractive adult, and it isn’t long before she and Oliver start spending time together. Elio watches them flirt when one day she comes over and... (full context)
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Everybody loves Oliver. Even Elio’s mother, who claims to dislike his gruff “Americanisms,” finds him charming and affectionately... (full context)
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Oliver now eats two soft-boiled eggs each morning, which Mafalda peels for him. When she offers... (full context)
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In the coming weeks, Elio senses that Chiara is—like him—“smitten” with Oliver. However, this does nothing to change the way he himself feels. When his father asks... (full context)
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Elio and his family aren’t the only people vying for Oliver’s time. Indeed, locals invite him almost nightly to dinner, and Chiara and her sister often... (full context)
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Chiara spends much of her time with Oliver while Elio himself simply yearns for one night together. “Just one night—one hour, even—if only... (full context)
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Watching Chiara and Oliver dance one night in town, Elio tries to convince himself that this is a good... (full context)
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In the coming days, Oliver and Elio stop talking, and Elio experiences pangs of jealousy as Oliver skips their tennis... (full context)
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In town one night, Oliver walks by with Chiara and sees Elio sitting with friends outside a caffè. Stopping for... (full context)
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In the aftermath of this conversation, Elio is delighted that Oliver—with whom he hasn’t spoken to for several days—has remembered that he reads Paul Celan. Feeling... (full context)
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“We almost did it,” Elio tells his father and Oliver the next morning at breakfast. His father asks why they didn’t, in that case, and... (full context)
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The summer trudges on, and Elio continues to debate whether or not he wants Oliver to know his true feelings. During a conversation about Chiara, Oliver finally snaps and admits... (full context)
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Oliver and Vimini start going to the beach together almost every day, where they sit and... (full context)
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...the days pass, Elio’s parents worry about how much time he spends alone. Waiting for Oliver to turn up, he spends a large amount of time each day sleeping fitfully on... (full context)
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Elio tries to hide how closely he tracks Oliver’s movement, but it’s difficult to conceal his disappointment when he doesn’t appear for dinner. He’s... (full context)
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When no one is home one afternoon, Elio sneaks into Oliver’s room and finds his red swimsuit hanging in the closet. Before knowing what he’s doing,... (full context)
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...that he’d never be able to ask this kind of question. When he whispered into Oliver’s pillow, he realized that he’d “rather die than face” Oliver’s “steely look” after revealing his... (full context)
Part 2: Monet’s Berm
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By the end of July, Oliver and Chiara’s relationship has fully ended. In fact, Oliver has started having a number of... (full context)
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In the garden one day, Elio tells Oliver about the old fairytale, and he asks if the knight speaks or dies. “Better to... (full context)
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Once they get their bikes, Elio asks Oliver if he thinks Anchise is creepy, which is the prevailing opinion around the house. However,... (full context)
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“Is there anything you don’t know?” Oliver asks. Elio stares at him and realizes this is his moment to reveal his feelings.... (full context)
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“Do you know what you’re saying?” Oliver asks. “Yes,” Elio says, “I know what I’m saying and you’re not mistaking any of... (full context)
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...I hadn’t spoken,” Elio says while biking home. “I’m going to pretend you never did,” Oliver replies, and when Elio asks if this means they’re still on “speaking terms,” he says,... (full context)
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“This is my spot,” Elio tells Oliver, saying he comes here to read. “Do you like being alone?” Oliver asks, to which... (full context)
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Oliver tells Elio that he’s “the luckiest kid in the world,” but Elio maintains that “so... (full context)
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“We can’t do this—I know myself,” Oliver says once they’ve stopped kissing. “So far we’ve behaved. We’ve been good. Neither of us... (full context)
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...though, he realizes he can’t live with that. Beneath the table his foot briefly grazes Oliver’s. Then all at once Oliver’s foot is pressing assuredly against the top of his arch,... (full context)
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...his bloody nose, telling his body not to “give the whole thing away.” Shortly thereafter, Oliver comes into his bedroom and asks if the nosebleed was his fault. Elio doesn’t answer,... (full context)
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Lying in his room, Elio fantasizes about telling Oliver straightforwardly that he wants to be “taken” by him, even if it’s a one-time kind... (full context)
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After a sleepless night during which he periodically thinks Oliver has entered his room only to discover that no one is there, Elio is silent... (full context)
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That night, Oliver is kind and calm, eating with the family and going to bed early. The next... (full context)
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Oliver agrees to go into B. with Elio on the condition that he make “no speeches.”... (full context)
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...outing to the bookstore, Elio had a dream in which he was having sex with Oliver and looking into his face. The expression Oliver wore was so striking that it ripped... (full context)
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When Oliver and Elio return, Oliver is quiet and unresponsive, shutting himself into his room for the... (full context)
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...out.” He then understands with an unpleasant sense of shock that this is exactly what Oliver has been doing to him—“intentionally ignoring” him so as to bring him closer. As he... (full context)
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...as Elio kisses Marzia, he finds himself composing a note that he later leaves in Oliver’s room. It reads: “Can’t stand the silence. I need to speak to you.” Before he... (full context)
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...and all the while some part of Elio hopes they’ll make an obvious noise that Oliver will hear. When she leaves that night, he stays behind and waits for midnight, agreeing... (full context)
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...where he’d crossed a far more menacing divide than the one between my room and Oliver’s,” he notes. “Turn back. Who knows what you’ll find once you’re in that room,” the... (full context)
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When the time comes, Elio enters Oliver’s room and watches him move about awkwardly as he assures him how glad he is... (full context)
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“We haven’t talked,” Oliver says, but Elio only shrugs. “Can I kiss you?” he asks, lifting Elio’s face. Without... (full context)
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...reveal more of myself than I cared to reveal. I had an impulse to stop [Oliver], and when he noticed, he did ask, but I did not answer, or didn’t know... (full context)
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Elio realizes his dream was accurate: having sex with Oliver is “like coming home.” And this is why he says, “You’ll kill me if you... (full context)
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...having sex. Now he realizes it was a copy of Se l’amore and wonders if Oliver went to the same book party that he and Marzia stumbled into the other night.... (full context)
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...as if he’s just woken up from a nightmare, Elio wonders how he possibly let Oliver do to him what he did. “I would never be the same,” he notes. He... (full context)
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After a moment, Oliver tells Elio he can go to sleep, so he closes his eyes and wishes he... (full context)
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Very early in the morning, Elio and Oliver go swimming, and Elio thinks this is the last time they’ll be “together like this.”... (full context)
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...reach the house and go upstairs, Elio goes to his room and is surprised when Oliver follows him. “Take your trunks off,” Oliver says, and Elio finds himself unable to “disobey.”... (full context)
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At breakfast, Oliver is wearing Elio’s bathing suit, which Elio thinks is “an unbearable turn-on.” Later in the... (full context)
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Just before Oliver enters the post office, Elio comes up behind him and whispers, “Fuck me, Elio,” in... (full context)
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...Elio’s shoulders as he stands before her. “Barely half an hour ago I was asking Oliver to fuck me and now here I was about to make love to Marzia,” Elio... (full context)
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...He then grabs two ripe peaches and goes upstairs and falls asleep while thinking about Oliver or Marzia walking by the balcony and seeing him lying naked on the bed. He... (full context)
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...he hears someone sneaking into his room. Before he opens his eyes, he knows it’s Oliver, who takes his arm and kisses him, lifts the sheet, and finds him naked. (full context)
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Oliver lowers his mouth to Elio’s penis and finds the “sticky taste” of the peach. Elio... (full context)
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Oliver tells Elio that he wanted him “from day one” but that he simply “hid it... (full context)
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...it,” he writes, “as with orgasm, I simply let myself go, if only to show [Oliver] something equally private about me as well.” He cries for all the feelings he’s experiencing... (full context)
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...movies and make plans to go to the bookstore the following night. When Elio returns, Oliver is nowhere to be found. After waiting in agony for him to return, Elio finally... (full context)
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The next morning, Elio opens Oliver’s soft-boiled eggs, taking Mafalda’s job and surprising everyone at the table. In particular, his father... (full context)
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...drawing to a close, he does nothing to slow down or conclude his relationship with Oliver. He thinks of this as neglecting to “drop bread crumbs” for a “return journey,” instead... (full context)
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...move back into his old room, because this way he’ll be able to pretend that Oliver is still sleeping next door. Before they depart, Elio makes Oliver promise to give him... (full context)
Part 3: The San Clemente Syndrome
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When Elio and Oliver arrive in their hotel room, there is a note from Oliver’s publisher inviting him to... (full context)
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Later, Elio and Oliver prepare to take a shower together. After Oliver takes a bowel movement, Elio tells him... (full context)
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Walking to the bookstore, Elio and Oliver pass a “human statue of Dante” who recites lines from The Inferno when tourists give... (full context)
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On the way to the bookstore, Elio and Oliver pass a significant landmark: the place where Elio first intuited his attraction to men. Three... (full context)
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Just before reaching the bookstore, Oliver steps aside to make “a quick local phone call” and tells Elio he’ll meet him... (full context)
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The bookstore’s door opens and Oliver steps in, and his publisher shouts, “Oliver! Finally! Welcome, welcome. One of the youngest, most... (full context)
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Oliver looks at Elio as if to ask if he liked Alfredo’s poems, and Elio shrugs... (full context)
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...in Thailand, though he ultimately finished the piece in Rome. After the reading, Elio and Oliver go with Alfredo, Lucia, and their many friends to dinner at a trattoria, where they... (full context)
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After dinner, the group goes to a bar, where they drink long past closing. Later, Oliver and Elio walk drunkenly through the streets. Overcome by the alcohol he’s had, Elio feels... (full context)
Part 4: Ghost Spots
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...about all the ways he will suffer—perhaps he’ll never be able to sleep alone without Oliver, or live with himself without having his lover’s touch. “Even in my sleep,” he writes,... (full context)
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...decide to go swimming together, walking out and sitting on a rock where she and Oliver used to pass the time. “We missed you,” Vimini says, and when Elio asks who... (full context)
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After dinner that night, Oliver calls and tells Elio he has arrived safely in New York. Their conversation is sad... (full context)
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...asks about his trip. Throughout the conversation, Mr. Pearlman’s questions hint at Elio’s relationship with Oliver. “You two had a nice friendship,” he says eventually. “You’re too smart not to know... (full context)
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...back or stood in the way.” Elio wonders how his father knew about him and Oliver, but all he can ask is if his mother knows. “I don’t think she does,”... (full context)
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Oliver returns over Christmas but doesn’t treat Elio with the same kind of open passion as... (full context)
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Oliver gets married the next summer. Elio writes him a letter when Vimini dies, but by... (full context)
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After another four years, Elio finds himself passing through the New England town in which Oliver teaches. As such, he pays him a visit at the university. At first, Oliver doesn’t... (full context)
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Oliver and Elio walk to Oliver’s office together. On the way, Oliver stops to introduce him... (full context)
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Elio tells Oliver, “You are the only person I’d like to say goodbye to when I die, because... (full context)
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“Last summer he finally did come back,” Elio writes, explaining that Oliver returns to B. for one night on his way through Italy. He arrives with a... (full context)
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The old lovers sit on the rock Oliver used to visit with Vimini. “She’d be thirty today,” he says. “She wrote to me... (full context)
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Elio says he’s going to take Oliver to the belfry in San Giacomo before lunch. When he asks if he remembers the... (full context)