The Grass is Singing
by Doris Lessing
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Life for white colonizers is defined by a certain kind of independence, isolation, and self-imposed exile. The area in which Dick and Mary live is described as “a farming district, where those isolated white families met only very occasionally, hungry for contact with their own kind.” Even within this sparse community, the Turners are discussed “in the hard, careless voices reserved for misfits, outlaws and the self-exiled.” The narrator explains that the reason for this prejudice is simply that the Turners “kept to themselves.” The farming district in which the Turners live is already isolated in the sense that the families living there are spread far apart from one another; it is also isolated from the nearby town and, in a broader sense, from the Turners’ homeland of England. It is thus remarkable that in this position, the Turners choose to further isolate themselves by declining to interact with their neighbors. Furthermore, not only do they not socialize with other white people, but—like all colonizers—they eschew the native population, treating their employees and other local black people with cruel disdain.

There is no doubt about the fact that, at least to some degree, both Dick and Mary enjoy their isolation. Dick’s antisocial tendencies mean that he hates going to the cinema, where the proximity to other audiences members makes him “uneasy.” Mary has a more ambivalent relationship to isolation. At times it seems that she enjoys socializing with others and misses interactions with other white people after marrying Dick, but she also harbors an antisocial attitude that at times rivals her husband’s. While Dick is on friendly terms with several of the black farm workers, Mary behaves with extreme, senseless cruelty to all black people, making it almost impossible to form a connection to most people around her. Her increasing resentment of Dick makes her wish she had never married, and she even goes so far as deciding to leave him in order to return to her state of premarital independence. Somewhat paradoxically, it was in this state of independence that Mary had a far more fulfilling social life. As a married woman, she is cut off from her previous friendships and forbidden from returning to her old job. For both Dick and Mary, marriage is lonely, and exacerbates their existing isolation as white colonizers in Southern Rhodesia.

The exile that Dick and Mary experience in relation to their white neighbors is a microcosm of the broader experience of exile that is inherent within the colonizer’s experience. The theme of exiling yourself from your homeland is explored through the narrator’s reflections on Mary’s sense of home: “For Mary, the word “Home,” spoken nostalgically, meant England, although both her parents were South Africans and had never been to England.” While some characters, such as Tony, move from England to Southern Rhodesia in their adult lives, other characters like Mary are descendents of multiple generations of colonizers whose connection to their “home” country is solely emotional, abstract, and symbolic. Mary has never even been to England, and thus the country cannot really be “home” to her; at the same time, the narrator notes elsewhere that “she had never become used to the bush, never felt at home in it.” In order to maintain their superior position within the racial hierarchy of colonial society, white people such as Mary must continue to insist on their disconnection from the country in which they live and cling to the fantasy of attachment to the distant “home” of England. Yet in actuality this does nothing but increase Mary and other white characters’ feeling of isolation, as they are left with a sense of having no home at all.

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Independence, Isolation, and Exile Quotes in The Grass is Singing

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Chapter 1 Quotes

It was a farming district, where those isolated white families met only very occasionally, hungry for contact with their own kind, to talk and discuss and pull to pieces, all speaking at once, making the most of an hour or so's companionship before returning to their farms where they saw only their own faces and the faces of their black servants for weeks on end.

Page Number and Citation: 2
Explanation and Analysis:
The novel has opened with the news of Mary Turner’s murder, which has been published in a newspaper under the headline “Murder Mystery.” The narrator has noted that white settlers expect native people to commit crimes, and that the people who know the Turners do not discuss the murder. In this passage, the narrator explains that the white families in the Turners’ farming district rarely see each other, and when they do, they are very eager to have contact with other white people. As the narrator indicates, these white settlers suffer from loneliness, yet this loneliness is not intense enough Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Acc

Long before the murder marked them out, people spoke of the Turners in the hard, careless voices reserved for misfits, outlaws and the self-exiled. The Turners were disliked, though few of their neighbors had ever met them, or even seen them in the distance. Yet what was there to dislike? They simply "kept themselves to themselves"; that was all.

Related Characters: Mary Turner , Dick Turner
Page Number and Citation: 2
Explanation and Analysis:
The narrator has explained that although the murder is something that would usually have been intensively discussed among the community in which the Turners live, for some reason their neighbors silently agreed not to talk about it. In this passage, the narrator offers an explanation why the neighbors seemed somewhat disinterested in the case. Rather than respecting the Turners’ decision to keep to themselves, the neighbors are offended by the couple’s self-imposed exile and condemn them for it. This conveys the strict social norms that govern white communities in Southern Rhodesia. Violating these norms—even by something as simple as declining Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam

Most of these young men were brought up with vague ideas about equality. They were shocked, for the first week or so, by the way natives were treated… They had been prepared to treat them as human beings. But they could not stand out against the society they were joining. It did not take them long to change. It was hard, of course, becoming as bad oneself. But it was not very long that they thought of it as "bad." And anyway, what had one's ideas amounted to? Abstract ideas about decency and goodwill, that was all: merely abstract ideas. When it came to the point, one never had contact with natives, except in the master-servant relationship. One never knew them in their own lives, as human beings.

Related Characters: Tony Marston
Page Number and Citation: 12
Explanation and Analysis:
Slatter has arrived at the Turners’ house following the murder of Mary, and Tony Marston has explained how he found Mary’s body and added that he doesn’t know anything about the murder. Tony is a well-educated young man who has recently arrived in Southern Rhodesia from England. Like other men of the same background, he shares the comparatively progressive ideas when it comes to matters of race relations. However, this attitude does not last long in Southern Rhodesia, where brutal racism is commonplace and where black people are not considered to be fully valuable or three-dimensional beings. In the face Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt

To live with the color bar in all its nuances and implications means closing one's mind to many things, if one intends to remain an accepted member of society. But, in the interval, there would be a few brief moments when he would see the thing clearly, and understand that it was “white civilization” fighting to defend itself that had been implicit in the attitude of Charlie Slatter and the Sergeant, “white civilization” which will never, never admit that a white person, and most particularly, a white woman, can have a human relationship, whether for good or for evil, with a black person. For once it admits that, it crashes, and nothing can save it.

Related Characters: Tony Marston, Charlie Slatter, Sergeant Denham
Page Number and Citation: 21
Explanation and Analysis:
Tony has attempted to tell Slatter and Sergeant Denham about his theory of why Mary was murdered, but the two men have resisted listening to him. As the men prepare to depart for the police station, Tony begins to realize why Slatter and the Sergeant did not want to hear his story. The idea that Mary had a relationship with Moses violates the “color bar”—the racial hierarchy governing Southern Rhodesian society—in such an extreme way that it must be kept quiet at all costs. One of the most important ideas within racist logic is that white women need to be Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo mi

Chapter 2 Quotes

"Class" is not a South African word; and its equivalent, "race," meant to her the office boy in the firm where she worked, other women's servants, and the amorphous mass of natives in the streets, whom she hardly noticed. She knew (the phrase was in the air) that the natives were getting "cheeky." But she had nothing to do with them really. They were outside her orbit.

Related Characters: Mary Turner
Page Number and Citation: 32-33
Explanation and Analysis:
Mary has been living a remarkably free and independent existence in town, and she has no idea how lucky she truly is in comparison to most women in the world. In particular, she has no idea how unlikely it is that she, the daughter of “a petty railway official,” should now find herself living a comfortable, leisure-filled, and financially independent life. As this passage explains, Mary’s ignorance on this front is the result of the fact that she has spent all of her life in southern Africa. Back in England, society is strictly delineated and determined according to class boundaries. Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Volup

Chapter 3 Quotes

It meant nothing to her, nothing at all. Expecting outrage and imposition, she was relieved to find she felt nothing. She was able maternally to bestow the gift of herself on this humble stranger, and remain untouched. Women have an

extraordinary ability to withdraw from the sexual relationship, to immunize themselves against it, in such a way that their men can be left feeling let down and insulted without having anything tangible to complain of.

Related Characters: Dick Turner, Mary Turner
Page Number and Citation: 56
Explanation and Analysis:
After getting married, Dick and Mary have arrived at Dick’s farm. Following a brief conversation, they have sex, which is not as bad as Mary worried it would be. In this passage, Mary reflects on the experience, which she feared would be far worse than was actually the case. At the same time, Mary feels numb and disconnected from Dick; rather than bringing them together, having sex for the first time isolates them, concealing them within their own respective worlds. The narrator suggests that this is not simply the result of Mary’s personal aversion to sex, but rather symptomatic of Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explic

Chapter 6 Quotes

If she disliked native men, she loathed the women. She hated the exposed fleshiness of them, their soft brown bodies and soft bashful faces that were also insolent and inquisitive, and their chattering voices that held a brazen fleshy undertone. She could not bear to see them sitting there on the grass, their legs tucked under them in that traditional timeless pose, as peaceful and uncaring as if it did not matter whether the store was opened, or whether it remained shut all day and they would have to return tomorrow. Above all, she hated the way they suckled their babies, with their breasts hanging down for everyone to see; there was something in their calm satisfied maternity that made her blood boil. "Their babies hanging on to them like leeches," she said to herself shuddering, for she thought with horror of suckling a child. The idea of a child’s lips on her breasts made her feel quite sick; at the thought of it she would involuntarily clasp her hands over her breasts, as if protecting them from a violation. And since so many white women are like her, turning with relief to the bottle, she was in good company, and did not think of herself, but rather of these black women, as strange; they were alien and primitive creatures with ugly desires she could not bear to think about.

Related Characters: Mary Turner
Related Symbols: The Store
Page Number and Citation: 104
Explanation and Analysis:
Against Mary’s will, Dick has opened a “kaffir store” on the farm, which Mary has agreed to run with great reluctance. Every day, a group of native women come to sit outside the store with their children, and this passage details Mary’s perverse sense of disgust and hatred at the sight of these women. Clearly, Mary’s views emerge not only from racist ideology, but also from internalized misogyny. She finds the women’s naked bodies, including natural bodily functions such as breastfeeding, repulsive. The moment when Mary clasps her hands over her own breasts shows that she does not wish to Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus possimus quo. Non inventore in. Eligendi atque placeat. Molestiae earum eum. Libero sit beatae. At a deserunt. Sint aperiam consequatur. Minima porro perferendis. Sit neque odit. Tenetur qui dignissimos. Qui et ut. Voluptate labore corporis. Hic tempore laborum. Nisi quia ea. Quia soluta itaq

Chapter 7 Quotes

For although their marriage was all wrong, and there was no real understanding between them, he had become accustomed to the double solitude that any marriage, even a bad one, becomes.

Related Characters: Dick Turner, Mary Turner
Page Number and Citation: 117
Explanation and Analysis:
After running away from the farm, Mary has come back and, in the coolness of winter, has returned almost to the level of vitality she exhibited before getting married. Dick is now gentler with her, fearing that she will run away again. At this point there can be no denying that their marriage is highly dysfunctional, and makes both of them miserable in different ways. However, the narrator suggests that this does not make their marriage exceptional, but rather fairly normal. The narrator argues that all marriages end up becoming units of “double solitude.” Rather than bringing two people together Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Providen

Chapter 10 Quotes

He had been in the country long enough to be shocked; at the same time his "progressiveness" was deliciously flattered by this evidence of white ruling-class hypocrisy. For in a country where colored children appear plentifully among the natives wherever a lonely white man is stationed, hypocrisy, as Tony defined it, was the first thing that had struck him on his arrival. But then, he had read enough about psychology to understand the sexual aspect of the color bar, one of whose foundations is the jealousy of the white man for the superior sexual potency of the native; and he was surprised at one of the guarded, a white woman, so easily evading this barrier. Yet he had met a doctor on the boat coming out, with years of experience in a country district, who had told him he would be surprised to know the number of white women who had relations with black men. Tony felt at the time that he would be surprised; he felt it would be rather like having a relation with an animal, in spite of his "progressiveness."

Related Characters: Moses, Tony Marston, Mary Turner
Page Number and Citation: 213-214
Explanation and Analysis:
While getting himself water from the house, Tony has witnessed Moses helping Mary to get dressed, and has come to believe that they are having an affair. He sits down, reeling. The Southern Rhodesian/British imperialist in him is shocked that such an affair could take place; however, his more racially progressive side reminds him that it is very common for white men to have sex with black women. This passage outlines the full extent of Tony’s mixed feelings and beliefs about the possibility of Mary and Moses sleeping together. Even though he understands the hypocrisy of the way in which Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempor

"It’s not customary in this country, is it?" he asked slowly, out of the depths of his complete bewilderment. And he saw, as he spoke, that the phrase "this country," which is like a call to solidarity for most white people, meant nothing to her. For her, there was only the farm; not even that––there was only this house, and what was in it. And he began to understand with a horrified pity, her utter indifference to Dick; she had shut out everything that conflicted with her actions, that would revive the code she had been brought up to follow.

Related Characters: Tony Marston (speaker), Dick Turner, Mary Turner , Moses
Page Number and Citation: 215
Explanation and Analysis:
After witnessing Moses helping Mary to get dressed, Tony has confronted Mary about the matter. He asks her if Moses always dresses and undresses her, and when she replies that he needs the extra work, Tony goes on to note that such an arrangement is not “customary” in this country. In making this remark, Tony is made aware of just how cut off Dick and Mary are from the society around them. Their isolation—both in the sense of their physical distance from their neighbors and their self-imposed social exile—has left them with little understanding of normality. Indeed, this helps to Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam v

Chapter 11 Quotes

When the dark returned he took his hand from the wall, and walked slowly off through the rain towards the bush. Though what thoughts of regret, or pity, or perhaps even wounded human affection were compounded with the satisfaction of his completed revenge, it is impossible to say. For, when he had gone perhaps a couple of hundred yards through the soaking bush he stopped, turned aside, and leaned against a tree on an ant heap. And there he would remain, until his pursuers, in their turn, came to find him.

Related Characters: Moses
Page Number and Citation: 238
Explanation and Analysis:
The night before she and Dick are due to leave the farm, Mary wakes up and goes to stand out on the veranda. Moses approaches and kills her with a single stab wound. This passage, the final paragraph of the novel, describes Moses’s feelings as he walks away from Mary’s dead body. It is the only moment in the narrative that comes close to exploring Moses’s subjectivity and inner life, although this remains obscured by the narrator’s statement that it is “impossible to say” what he is really feeling. Moses’s decision to wait nearby the house before turning himself remains Dolorem et quae. Exercitationem non aut. Eveniet dolor non. Incidunt dolores sunt. Ad dolor at. Quia aperiam eligendi. Ut veniam voluptatem. Aperiam consequuntur mollitia. Provident expedita delectus. Occaecati ea suscipit. Optio ut iste. Voluptas aut occaecati. Accusantium recusandae voluptates. Explicabo minus tempore. Nostrum dolor asperiores. Ut aliquam officiis. Unde enim nesciunt. Commodi necessitatibus voluptas. Accusamus eaque omnis. Velit eaque error. Possimus corrupti soluta. Qui aut a. Rerum voluptas debitis. Voluptatem accusantium est. Mollitia eaque ipsa. Perferendis consectetur et. Dicta impedit ut. Ducimus