A Complicated Kindness

by

Miriam Toews

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A Complicated Kindness: Chapter Ten Summary & Analysis

Summary
Analysis
Nomi and Travis are sitting in the truck waiting to meet The Comb, a local drug dealer, and buy marijuana. They are arguing about whether Ray and Trudie ever had chemistry; Nomi says that they once did, but Travis argues that Ray is like a boy “with his finger in the dike,” trying to save everyone but looking kind of goofy in the process. He puts Nomi’s hand on his groin and tells her that this is chemistry. Nomi is offended and says that Travis shouldn’t insult Ray and then come on to her. Travis says she should relax.
By insulting Nomi’s father, destabilizing her already fragile confidence in her family, and then making a sexual gesture, Travis is being a remarkably untactful partner. Yet by telling Nomi to “relax,” he makes it seem like she’s in the wrong. By the end of the novel, Nomi will learn that her thoughts and feelings have value, and that she must distance herself from those who dismiss them.
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The Comb comes outside from his trailer. He once worked at the chicken plant, and could kill four chickens at once. Nomi gives him some money and the Comb throws her a bag of weed. He asks if Nomi has seen Tash lately and grabs his crotch. Nomi doesn’t respond; she’s a little scared of The Comb and doesn’t want to annoy him. He’s one of the only people who can live in the town yet completely ignore all its rules. Nomi says he’s kind of like Menno Simons; both men share an “obsession with escaping from the world.”
The Comb’s efficiency as a chicken-slaughterer, and his sexual gesture about Tash, imply a lewdness and potential for violence in his character that will become significant later. It’s interesting that Nomi compares him, a social misfit, to Menno Simons, the originator of the community. In doing so, she suggests that both The Comb’s lawless existence and Menno’s asceticism stem from the same inability to face the real world.
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Later, Nomi sits outside the bakery drawing with her chalk and watching a man named Bert drive up and down the street. He’s wearing a jean jacket with Led Zeppelin written on the back, except that the last two letters don’t fit on the jacket. Nomi reflects that there are many simple ways to look less like an idiot. She remembers that one time Bert picked her up in his truck and told her about the deaths of his parents and his life with his grandmother. He’s been excommunicated from the church  for his alcoholism. Now he dates a French girl, and they often drive up and down Main Street together. Once, Nomi dreamt that Bert and his girlfriend start dancing in the supermarket parking lot, and it was so beautiful that everyone watching started to cry.
Bert’s jacket reflects both an earnest desire to keep in step with modern times, and the total inability to do so from within their isolated and traditional community. Bert seems like an unstable character, but he’s unable to act otherwise given his family history and the church’s decision to punish, rather than help, him. In a way, Nomi’s dream evokes a world in which the religious community can appreciate the beauty and value of flawed people, rather than simply casting them out.
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Travis picks Nomi up on Main Street, and they go for a drive. Nomi wants him to play more songs on his guitar, but she also gets anxious thinking about what to say in between songs. However, Travis is mostly interested in running around naked in the fields, and Nomi likes doing that too. When they get tired, they lie down next to each other. Travis says that they shouldn’t talk so they can “synchronize.” Nomi falls asleep and when she wakes up, it’s raining and Travis is sitting in his truck. Nom asks why he didn’t wake her up, and he doesn’t answer. She points out a clump of horses in the field, who have gathered together to protect each other from the elements.
It’s becoming increasingly clear that Nomi’s relationship is entirely centered around Travis’s preferences and his desire to show off. His affected philosophical attitude contrasts with Nomi’s thoughtful and probing exploration of life’s dilemmas in her own narrative. Yet she’s unable to translate her competence and talent as a storyteller into confidence in her relationships with others.
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When Nomi gets home, Ray is on the roof cleaning out the gutters. Nomi asks him to come down, but he refuses. She wonders if he has purposely waited for a thunderstorm to handle this chore.
It’s easy to see that Nomi likely derives her own self-destructive tendencies from her father’s behavior, demonstrating the extent to which an individual’s family can impact the way they view themselves.
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Armed with Tash’s Valium and some cigarettes, Nomi prepares to walk to Abe’s Hill. Outside her house, she sees the little neighbor girl playing. Nomi stops to pick her up and spin her around until they both fall down. The girl shows Nomi the contents of her purse: lipstick and a fake gun. She tells Nomi that Jesus used to drink wine, and Nomi makes funny faces to make her laugh.
Nomi always pays attention to the little girl, demonstrating her empathy for members of society whom others simply ignore. With her awareness of the contradictions in Mennonite life (like Jesus’s consumption of a now-forbidden substance), the little girl mirrors Nomi’s own curious attitude.
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On the way to the hill, Nomi passes The Mouth and his wife, whom she has privately nicknamed Aunt Gonad. The Mouth greets Nomi in the Mennonite language Plautdietsch, which he wants everyone to speak, but she refuses to respond. The Mouth has a daughter, currently living in Germany, who used to be Nomi’s Sunday school teacher. Nomi remembers her trying to illustrate the miracle of Christianity by describing the “impossible” things that can happen with God’s help, such as very fat gymnasts winning Olympic medals. The Mouth also has a son with whom Nomi was close as a child. They played a game called “Bus Driver and Lost Girl,” in which Nomi pretended to be lost and had to let the bus driver kiss her before taking her home.
The Mouth’s daughter takes a patently ridiculous approach to explaining Christian theology, depicting miracles as acts of magic or overt depictions of God’s power. In contrast, Nomi’s parents, especially Ray, conceive of faith as a force that exists within and gives value to everyday life, even when no “miracles” are occurring. By making fun of the Sunday school teacher, Nomi doesn’t dismiss Christianity completely—rather, she draws attention to a different form of faith that she finds more worthwhile.
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Quotes
Nomi isn’t strong enough to ride her bike up the hill, so she leaves it at the bottom. She knows she should stop smoking, but she would feel lost without her cigarettes. She’s even loyal to her brand, Sweet Caps; it comforts her to buy the same pack of cigarettes every time, just as it comforts Ray to watch Hymn Sing on TV every night. Nomi plans to quit when she’s 40, after she’s worked at the chicken plant for 23 years.
Invoking the chicken plant, Nomi implies that it’s not worth taking care of her body because she won’t be doing anything interesting with her life. Just as she doesn’t assert her own value to Travis, it seems she has trouble believing that she deserves to leave her community and find a place where she can thrive.
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